Monday, August 16, 2010

How to cope with parents divorce (i am an adult now) ?

Ever since I can remember, my parents were ALWAYS fighting. Anyways, they just got divorced a few months ago..right around July..I think..Well ok so then my mom wants to bring her new bf to my wedding in august. I told her no way. So last week she tells me that they are getting married! Its so messed up I dont even have a place to call home anymore because their house was taken away and my dad lives in an apartment withmy little brother and my mom lives with her ';new family'; as we call it. Its just really hard to deal with. I grew up with 2 parents and now its like I have nothing. Anyone have any advice for me?How to cope with parents divorce (i am an adult now) ?
The place you call ';home'; is the place where you and your husband live.





Your parents are still your parents, even if they are not together.





Your parents are moving on, and so should you. If they were ';always'; fighting, it couldn't have been a happy relationship; hopefully, now they might have a new opportunity to find partners they can be happy with. There's nothing you can do but be supportive of that. It is not ';messed up'; - it's life.How to cope with parents divorce (i am an adult now) ?
If you are getting married you must be an adult. Be an adult. Parents are human and they screw up. If you are getting married you have something! A man who loves you-right?
As an adult you should know that people do get divorced and that life goes on. This divorce does not sound like a surprise and you should not be so mad at her because she has found happiness. You are making a new home for yourself and they don't have to Keep a home for you to come home to and watch them fight. Be happy for your Mom and give this new person a chance. This could be the best thing that ever happened to your family and you don't want to pass judgment on him before you get a chance to see how he fits with your Mom.If you are old enough to get married then you are old enough to know that life is not always fair but your Mom will always be your Mom and deserves love and respect. If it helps go to counseling with her and get this all out so it does not ruin your wedding and marriage.
You are right, dear-you're an adult. Now is the time to ACT like one, right?





If Mother has married by the time you send out the wedding invites, you have no choice but to invite her husband or risk being very trashy and rude....





You have nothing? really? You have two parents, a brother, a soon to be step father and a fiance who will be your husband soon.





Doesn't sound like nothing to me. What it sounds like is the bleatings of a little kid whose Mommy and Daddy don't live together anymore and she doesn;t like that. She wants to continue to pretned that Mommy and Daddy are still together.





If you can't deal with Life as it IS, you are not mature enough to marry.





If you are mature enough to marry, you deal with Reality-that's all.
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