My mom just told me that she's leaving my dad and they're getting a divorce. How do I cope with that?

Does anyone else have divorced parents? Do you have any tips for overcoming it and bearing your parents' difficulties? Please help me, I'm really scared and I'm afraid I'll end up like my friend, Nicole. She's now bipolar and cuts herself because her parents are divorced. Please, please, please give me advise! This is new to me and I am really upset over this!


Thanks.My mom just told me that she's leaving my dad and they're getting a divorce. How do I cope with that?
Listen. Be happy.


Your mom obviously is divorcing your dad for a reason. It is big, okay?


I have an abusive father who drinks and abuses me and my mom both verbally and physically. My mom just wishes she could divorce like that. But we cant, because we dont have the money right now so we're stuck with this abusive monster until we can get the money to finish the divorce.


Be happy. Atleast your mom is getting you out from something she thinks should happen. Trust your mom, you dont know what your dad did.


I wish I could be in your position.My mom just told me that she's leaving my dad and they're getting a divorce. How do I cope with that?
Everything is going to be alright, you will always have your parents, they just won't live together, it's better for them to separate than be unhappy with each other, it has nothing to do with you and you are not to blame, it is their problem not yours, as far as your friend is concern, she chooses to hurt herself instead of seeking counseling to deal with it and more than likely blames herself for the divorce, a lot of kids blame themselves, when in reality has nothing to do with them, go to church seek prayer, join a church youth group. You will do just find, stay busy.
Yes, my parents were divorced since I was 9.





the first thing to remember is: You're not the only one to go through this. .





Next, try to devise rules that protect you if they are not keen enough to do it on their own. Some rules would be like:





';No talking bad about the other parent to you.';


';No talking about child support to you.';


';They can't introduce their boyfriends, girlfriends, dates to you for at least one year after the divorce is final.';





You may think of some other rules that would protect you, but those are few off the top of my head.





sometimes parents forget that their decisions affect other lives, and they must help children cope in appropriate ways. You obviously know that cutting yourself is NOT appropriate- you know that using drugs and alcohol is NOT appropriate. So don't cope that way.





Engaging in group sports or activities (art club, book clubs, chorus) can give you the type of group support that will help give you relief from dealing with the stress.
My parents are divorced and have been for a while. One thing that always helped me is to know that even though they might not be together anymore, they are still both connected to you. They still love you even though they may not love each other in the same way. Also, your parents are probably much happier apart. When the people you live with are happy, essentially you will be too. I'm sorry you're going through this but everything will get better.


As far as your friend goes, counseling can help.
I'm sorry to hear that. Try to understand that they were unhappy as a married couple. And now being separated they will be happy, and you would rather have them separate and happy then together and miserable right? You are not going to end up like your friend. I would sit down with both of them if possible and express how you feel. Hearing how it bothers you will help them to understand and deal with it appropriately.
you know what darling this is very common iam 17 and my parents will be divorced in ayear legally they have been living seperately for 6 years.


dont worry baby this is happening for good probably.just live your life and go confidently in the direction of your dreams.
well my parents has been divorced ever since


i was young so im pretty use to it.





maybe its better for them


you just have to look at the positive side


to it..
My parents are divorced also. just try to think happy and for me it is better cause when that were together they were fighting so maybe its better that they r not together.im sorry that happened.
talk to them separately and together.
jus tawk 2 yo parents bout da situation n how u feel bout dat dnt start stressin yo self out lyke yo friend
dont sweat it! you will live with one one your parents and you get to see the other one alot too.
i donno how old you are but i really wish my parents should have divorced a long time ago. they been living together for 40 yrs but they hate each other. they fight like crazy every single minute of every day. i effing hate it when they shout and scream. when i was 18, my mom once decided to divorce my dad. she asked all us children if we'll be okay with it and i was soooooo happy that they are finally gonna split but then they stayed together for god knows what reason and continued their fights. btw they haven't slept in the same room for 20 years now. they don't talk to each other (except when they're fighting) and i have panic attacks coz of constant anxiety i had around them since childhood. so i guess when parents are ready to get a divorce, there's some reason behind it which kids can only understand when they are older. but believe me, its better to split up than to stay in an unhealthy relationship and you should look at your parents as human beings. they have their own needs and likes/ dislikes. you're very important to them, but although you are blood related to both of them, they are not related through blood and they can separate and move on if that makes them feel happier. i'd say you should think about it very logically, would you like them to be apart and happy or together and sad?? and down the road, you'll have to hear them say day and night that they stayed together and had a miserable life for YOUR SAKE. like my parents say and that'd make you bipolar too.