I feel sick. I'm 35 weeks pregnant and about to go through a divorce. Any ideas on how to cope?

We've been married for 3 years, together for 5 and all we do is fight. I'm going to see an apartment today. We've gone through this so many times and really do need to be apart. But how can I do it? It's taking that final step of moving out that is so hard - I worry so much that he will struggle financially (he has two other children that live with him full-time) and we have a pretty hefty mortgage. We can't sell yet - I just feel awful. About everything....... Does anyone have a paper bag?I feel sick. I'm 35 weeks pregnant and about to go through a divorce. Any ideas on how to cope?
Go to counseling. You're pregnant and your hormones are crazy. Be smart not emotional. This is not the time to be thinking of this. Unless he's hitting you. If it's just verbal, stay away from him and go to counseling. Get a plan and your ducks all in a row. If you think it's hard now financially, how do you think it's going to be when you leave?





Can you agree to live in seperate rooms and live as roommates? Maybe a little breathing room will help.





I am so sorry you feel awful. Chill out, as much as you can. Ignore all the things that irritate you, as much as you can. Try not to let small things get to you.





Where should I send the paper bag?I feel sick. I'm 35 weeks pregnant and about to go through a divorce. Any ideas on how to cope?
trade the truck for something eles move into ur and the littleones new place and take his rear for child suport they will take it right outta his pay checks and get your name taken off the morgage let them foreclose on it
Don't worry about him. If you are moving out, you concern should be on you and your baby and staying health. Once, you move into your apartment, just think that it is going to be you and the baby for the time being. Worry about the rest when you get to the bridge.
You first need to take a step back and breathe. Your condition isn't dabilitating but it is delicate. Is it possible you can move in with friends or relatives so that you can save money during your pregnancy? It is stressful being a single parent, let alone a pregnant woman going through a divorce. When we choose to become parents sacrifice is the price we pay for them. If he wants the divorce then I am sure he is prepared to handle the finances, as well as, his own children alone. You need to worry first about your health and that of your child and less about his problems right now. Once your child is born, pursue child support because he is obligated to help you take care of your baby. If he is forced to work two jobs - that is the penalty for unprotected sex. Try to remain cordial with him because it is obvious you've bonded with his two children. This is just a temporary respit on your way to clear pastures - slow down, pace yourself, act rationally and carefully. Get help from friends or your church in dealing - don't go through this alone.
tell your husband about how you feel about him. And see how he reacts. Tell him you want to be seperated for a while so you can have time alone and thinks things out. Try to relax by going shopping for yourself or going to a day spa. DO something for yourself so you can get relaxed.
Well, is there anyway you both could stay together in the same house (maybe you move to another room) for the sake of the kids and the mortgage?


If the mortgage is in both of your names and for some reason he cannot pay, it will get foreclosed...Then your credit will be ruined as well as his. So, yes, it does affect you?
hun you are going to have to get on ur knees and do some serious praying. Ask our Father to help you get your life straight
You need someone to help you through this time of your life, like your mother, or sister or even your best friend. Sometimes it helps when you focus on the life growing in you. The baby will need you when it comes out. Seek help from someone you can trust, have faith in yourself, your road maybe steep at the moment but you will struggle through and you will be okay.
You have to know in your heart and mind that you are doing the right thing for your kids and the little one on the way. (congratulations by the way.) You are not alone in this. Do you have a close friend or family member that could help you out with all of this? You really dont deserve to do it all by yourself. Also, dont think of it as the end, think of it as a new beginning. Theres a saying that says its only over when its all ok, if its not ok its not over. I will keep you in my prayers. I know it will be hard, but you are really doing the right thing in the long run. Trust me, i have grown up listening to my parents fight alot and i dont like it at all. So you are doing the right thing. Best of luck to you!
If the mortgage is under both names yes you are responsible for half. If your going to get a divorce do it right, sell the house the bank its is share and the balance is split between the too and yes he will be forced to pay child support 17% of his pay for each child + whatever the judge decides. Unfortuantely his other 2 children his is problem you have yourself and your child to think about. Its a pitty these 2 other children have to go thru another divorce.
The ONLY thing you should be worrying about is the Health of you and your Baby. Domestic problems and Money Problems have a way of working themselves out over time, but DON'T make yourself sick over it. Just remember that very soon you will have something that money or a husband can't replace.....a beautiful Baby Boy/Girl!!!


God Bless and Good Luck!!!


P.S. If it's a boy, Eddie would be a good name.


Eddie.
I assume you've tried counseling?? If not, maybe you should w/ all that is involved...


If that is not an option, and neither of you are able to make it work, then you will have to just live w/ the decision and hope for the best...you may be responsible for part of the mortgage if he can't cover it all...keep that in mind...
sweetheart take care of yourself and the baby.....try to sit down and talk with your husband... due to you being pregnant your hormones are raging.... step back and write a list why should i stay and why should you go.... then write down who gets hurt and who benefits from a divorce... of cousre the easy way out is to walk away.......
Maybe you should give it sometime. Many times while pregnant we have so many emotions going on at once therefor i think you need to wait it out. other wise your going to regret leaving. besides it is so hard doing it on your own. You must stop fighting together and stay and support each other. He cant just leave you like this while you are pregnant. A man must help you, listen to you, take whatever crap you have to say because you are pregnant. He must support you and make you feel good at this time in your life. How dare he not stick by you and make you happy with whatever it takes???


When i was pregnant all problems aside we stuck by each other and i had 100% support and got everthing i needed and would get away with every thing i said because he understood that my hormons played a big part in the way i felt.