Having issues coping with my parents divorce?

Man, this is a huge shock! It exactly a year ago today, is when it became final, I was 12 at the time (now 13.5) and I was just really thinking..... my whole life is affected now. I knew that from the begining but just today it really sunk in, I mean when my kids someday go to visit there ';grandparents';, there gona have to go to 2 seperate house, and then when I get married, hmmm what do I do there, do I seat them together or what. Man, this JUST sunk in, all the emoitions, and anger (my dad left our family for another woman and it pisses me off!) I mean, after about a month I got used to the whole thing, but now im starting to feel like I did the first month I found out. ANy good websites that helps teens with divorce, or where you can chat with other divorced teens, thanks! Any personal life stories about what you did, how old were you when your got divorced, (Websites would be GREAT!) thanks so much guys, divorce blowsHaving issues coping with my parents divorce?
you children... when they get here.... will have no problem with this situation.... because they will never have experienced it the other way first.





you have to adjust... they will not.Having issues coping with my parents divorce?
dude if your talking about your future kids they won't think of it as a bad thing because they will have more presents and more love from more grandparents. but in your current case just try to cope with it the best you can. think of hard it must be for your parents to have a divorce with eachother when they have you.





you'll get used to things. don't worry. stick in there bro





good luck to you
Parents are not divorced.





Drown these ';feelings'; with lots of porn.
amen to your last statement.








ew and don't listen to lightboarder...
I was seven when my dad just walked out the door one day and never came back. He saw me occasionally but he was shady and I was scared of him. Then once I was about sixteen I thought maybe he would be cooler than my mom. I think my dad is a loser, I think that him leaving my mom for someone else makes him worthless, and I have no need for him in my life.





Your dad didn't leave YOU. He must have some huge inner issues that for some reason he cannot work out. As far as your future children are concerned, don't worry. They are going to have 2 sets of grandparents anyways so one extra house isnt going to be a big deal. When you get married, hopefully your parents will be grown up enough to realize that it is your big day, not theirs.





My brother got married and my dad was not invited. When I had my daughter, I wouldn't tell my dad what hospital I was at. It sounds like I have a lot of anger for my dad as well, but its really just indifference. I know that the hurt I got when he first left will never truly be resolved, but you can't let it bring you down. You did nothing to deserve this and nothing you did caused this.





Be mad, talk to your mom about it, if you talk to your dad tell him or write him a letter. You will be absolutely fine! I'm sorry I didn't have any websites, but I hope it helped!
Well first things first, divorce now and days is so common it's scary. My parents divorced when I was 8 but they were separated since I was 2 so it really didn't have an effect on me. The really good thing about your parents being divorced is you get two birthdays and two christmas'. It all depends on how civilized your parents are with one another. My friends dad cheated on her mom and they got divorced when she was 11 but her dad is really involved in their lives and he stills comes over to her moms house and he's married and has another child. My parents on the other hand can't stand each other! I'm the messenger because they hate talking to each other.You will get used to the change though. It's not that bad it's just different that's all. Just keep your head up and try not to think of the bad think of the good like two christmas' and birthdays. Don't be mad at your dad either because it happens, you just have to roll with the punches.
Yeah my parents divorced when i was about 13 too. I'm 21 now and living happily. It sucks the way your father left, him leaving with another woman. My parents just did not get along or anything and fought all the time so i was kind of eager for them to FINALLY get a divorce. All you have to do is sort through your feelings. Who are you angry at? Why? Etc etc...What do you think would happen with your parents will still together now? Your father and mom would totally be unhappy, your mom feeling inadequate, your father resentful for being tied down...you have to measure the pros and cons of the divorce....
My heart went out to you when I read your post. Sadly, it seems like half of all American couples are getting divorced these days. I would like to say, first of all, that I really admire your strength and ability to think through the challenge that you've been placed in. At that age, it can be so hard, especially when everything else around you is changing too.





I'd like to share my personal experience with you, to see if it can help you out in any way, or shed a different perspective on things. I was 8 years old when my parents told me they were going to separate and I had to choose who I wanted to live with. That right there, for an 8 year old to decide, is a devastating choice to make. To make a long story short, my parents decided to stay together for my sister and I (not a good choice). Over the next several years, I had to listen to argument after argument, and eventually several years where the atmosphere in our house was so cold because my parents hardly talked to each other. When I was 20 ( I am now 22), their divorce finally became final. I dealt with very strong feelings and emotions during my adolescent years, many of which were blaming myself for things I couldn't control. As a result of all of that, I ended up with mental health issues because I bottled all of my emotions up for so long and it wasn't healthy. Even after their divorce was final, it took me over a year to come to terms with it. I just wanted everyone to be happy, but they weren't. Even now, I still think about it from time to time, but not like I did before. I have accepted it and realized it is the best thing they could have done for each other. They tried marriage counseling and the sort, but nothing seemed to work. They now seem a bit more content, and that makes me more content.





My situation may be a little different than yours, but know that I've been where you are. I've felt those feelings before and it sucks. If I had any advice for you, it would be to continue trying to love your parents in the midst of everything that is going on. From personal experience, I know my parents lost each other, and they couldn't afford to lose me too.





Hang in there and stay strong! Journal or talk to others about your feelings, but make sure not to bottle them up inside. Expressing anger in a healthy way is good.