Friday, August 20, 2010
What are your stressors and how do you cope?
hey guys and gals! i need your help. im doing a research study on stress and all i need is for you to answer some questions. i just need gender and age recorded. please reply and answer the questions...thanks!
please pick from the list the sources of stress that are common in your life:
school
work
family
relationships
friends
health
money
managing time
death
divorce
future
transportation
social
spiritual
are there any stressors you face that are not on the list?
how do you cope with stress?What are your stressors and how do you cope?
sometimes school stresses me out, i usually keep up with it tho and do really well on exams and projects so not usually. Sometimes money does, not often though. im good with saving and very good at spending on what i need, not what i want.
Actually now that i think about it, none of those are stress factors for me. At least constantly recurring stress. I rarely worry about things, i dont fret and fidget when things go bad, i just let it take its course. Maybe it sounds bad to say that i dont really get stressed out but its true. I dont have pet peeves, so people dont bother me either. Hm.
Oh yeah im a girl and im 19. im in school, i have a job, i have bills, just like regular people. What are your stressors and how do you cope?
i stress about a lot of things.
school
friends
money
social
usually i like to listen to music or talk to my family and friends.
family and money
I keep crying since i got divorced thursday, how do i cope with it?
Ive been staying in bed crying %26amp; trying to push myself out of bed.
now i even hate to get outside,
what shall i do?
i knew him since 1985 %26amp; got divorced the may 28th ( thursday) %26amp; its hard to cope with it. Please give me ideas of what to do.I keep crying since i got divorced thursday, how do i cope with it?
This whole thing has been very rough on you.
Now that it's over, the reality that it's over is still sinking in. You are sad because you do remember the good times. Also, even with his abuse and gambling and getting you evicted that you lived thought, there were good times too. It's also possible that you, someplace in the back of your mind, thought that maybe he would change and you could try again. That option is now gone.
From all you have said, you are much better off with out him and his crazy GF. Let them go out of your life. I know easier said that done.
Right now, you are going to have to force yourself to get out of bed. When you are laying there crying all you are thinking about is the divorce. I know it's hard, but you must get out and do somethings to get your mind off the divorce even for a few minutes at first.
All of here can offer advice and help, but some of it has to come from inside you too. We're all making the effort to help, now you have to make an effort to help yourself too. We will still be here to offer what we can as you take the slow painful steps into your new life of freedom and future happiness.
Just my thoughtsI keep crying since i got divorced thursday, how do i cope with it?
you need to get out of bed and look at the rest of your life it will be with good out him i know it is hard but laying in bed won't fix anything you have to move forward take care of you i divorced my husband in may 1992 the 21st. so it was hard he was my first love but i have a great life with out him so you can do it too just trust in yourself to do more for yourself than he could you'll be fine
it's like a death. you're grieving.
i went through this too. give your self permission to grieve. my therapist who counseled me through this said a gallon of tears out of each eye. there were times i sat and howled, when i was alone, of course. and waves of anger at him and the addiction that destroyed our marriage. antidepressants don't help grief.
well meaning people will try to get you on antidepressants becuase your grieving makes them uncomfortable. or they will tell you ';you should be past this by now';.
honestly my grieving took on many forms, including staying home and being alone for a year or so. i just wanted to be left alone. Kind of ';hid'; in my lovely home. emotionally felt like i was walking through molasses. it was just the thing I needed because i am all better now. But my friends accused me of ';isolating';, like this was a bad thing.
at about the year and a half mark, I started to venture out, because I wanted to, not because THEY wanted me to. started having fun again.
I am at the two year mark now and not even thinking about HIM or the divorce anymore. planning my future, but trying to live on a limited budget.
I'm not sure why your so focused on your divorce? Apparently your actual marriage was over long ago and you did nothing to save it at that time. A divorce is an official ending, but your actual marriage ended long ago . . . you should be mourning that . . . not the fact the courts made it official.
As much as I know you have heard this, it will get better in time.
Do something you knew he hated you to do! Then go out and
rent you a good movie and your favorite dinner and enjoy!
If you can't help yourself, talk to a psychologist.
Go out with your girlfriends and drink it up!
You're in my prayers. God can help.
Man up *itch, Man up!
now i even hate to get outside,
what shall i do?
i knew him since 1985 %26amp; got divorced the may 28th ( thursday) %26amp; its hard to cope with it. Please give me ideas of what to do.I keep crying since i got divorced thursday, how do i cope with it?
This whole thing has been very rough on you.
Now that it's over, the reality that it's over is still sinking in. You are sad because you do remember the good times. Also, even with his abuse and gambling and getting you evicted that you lived thought, there were good times too. It's also possible that you, someplace in the back of your mind, thought that maybe he would change and you could try again. That option is now gone.
From all you have said, you are much better off with out him and his crazy GF. Let them go out of your life. I know easier said that done.
Right now, you are going to have to force yourself to get out of bed. When you are laying there crying all you are thinking about is the divorce. I know it's hard, but you must get out and do somethings to get your mind off the divorce even for a few minutes at first.
All of here can offer advice and help, but some of it has to come from inside you too. We're all making the effort to help, now you have to make an effort to help yourself too. We will still be here to offer what we can as you take the slow painful steps into your new life of freedom and future happiness.
Just my thoughtsI keep crying since i got divorced thursday, how do i cope with it?
you need to get out of bed and look at the rest of your life it will be with good out him i know it is hard but laying in bed won't fix anything you have to move forward take care of you i divorced my husband in may 1992 the 21st. so it was hard he was my first love but i have a great life with out him so you can do it too just trust in yourself to do more for yourself than he could you'll be fine
it's like a death. you're grieving.
i went through this too. give your self permission to grieve. my therapist who counseled me through this said a gallon of tears out of each eye. there were times i sat and howled, when i was alone, of course. and waves of anger at him and the addiction that destroyed our marriage. antidepressants don't help grief.
well meaning people will try to get you on antidepressants becuase your grieving makes them uncomfortable. or they will tell you ';you should be past this by now';.
honestly my grieving took on many forms, including staying home and being alone for a year or so. i just wanted to be left alone. Kind of ';hid'; in my lovely home. emotionally felt like i was walking through molasses. it was just the thing I needed because i am all better now. But my friends accused me of ';isolating';, like this was a bad thing.
at about the year and a half mark, I started to venture out, because I wanted to, not because THEY wanted me to. started having fun again.
I am at the two year mark now and not even thinking about HIM or the divorce anymore. planning my future, but trying to live on a limited budget.
I'm not sure why your so focused on your divorce? Apparently your actual marriage was over long ago and you did nothing to save it at that time. A divorce is an official ending, but your actual marriage ended long ago . . . you should be mourning that . . . not the fact the courts made it official.
As much as I know you have heard this, it will get better in time.
Do something you knew he hated you to do! Then go out and
rent you a good movie and your favorite dinner and enjoy!
If you can't help yourself, talk to a psychologist.
Go out with your girlfriends and drink it up!
You're in my prayers. God can help.
Man up *itch, Man up!
I'm feeling a little down about my current house-hold situation?
My mom is bipolar and schitzophrenic and she has just recently decided to move out of the house. Anyone have some usefull advice on how to cope with a parents divorce because I'm still in shock that it's actually happening. I mean, ';why me?';I'm feeling a little down about my current house-hold situation?
Get over the why me deal--it is a shock and a disappointment--but it is life. You can't help--maybe a professional could have. It is a shame to watch a destructive force take hold of a family. The life your mom had was torture for her and the family--not exactly what she wanted--for sure. I am sure it was a terrible chain of events to see a family unit be affected by your mom's disorders. Mental issues are the worst next to terminal illnesses......I am hoping you will be strong for who is around and looking to you for strength and support and understanding. Good luck to you.I'm feeling a little down about my current house-hold situation?
1.It has nothing to do with you ,even though you may feel it does.
2.Everything will be OK..Maybe they will both become much happier now..Wouldn't that be cool?
3.My parents and millions of other parents are divorced.
I don't know why,but it seems the norm now.
Also,you will get more presents now on holidays...
lots of parents divorse. mine divorsed, i divorsed then with my husband. so just grow up. life is not about u only and world didn't stop spinning when u were born
Get over the why me deal--it is a shock and a disappointment--but it is life. You can't help--maybe a professional could have. It is a shame to watch a destructive force take hold of a family. The life your mom had was torture for her and the family--not exactly what she wanted--for sure. I am sure it was a terrible chain of events to see a family unit be affected by your mom's disorders. Mental issues are the worst next to terminal illnesses......I am hoping you will be strong for who is around and looking to you for strength and support and understanding. Good luck to you.I'm feeling a little down about my current house-hold situation?
1.It has nothing to do with you ,even though you may feel it does.
2.Everything will be OK..Maybe they will both become much happier now..Wouldn't that be cool?
3.My parents and millions of other parents are divorced.
I don't know why,but it seems the norm now.
Also,you will get more presents now on holidays...
lots of parents divorse. mine divorsed, i divorsed then with my husband. so just grow up. life is not about u only and world didn't stop spinning when u were born
How do I cope with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic?
I do not believe in divorce, I love him and so do my children. It is difficult to see the one you love struggle.How do I cope with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic?
Hi Linda. I understand. Alcohol is like any other substance - meaning - alcohol or drugs - both the same. I say that because I'm passing on advice based on personal experience with someone in my family who was/is an addict. You may have some experience with dealing with the day to day life of an alcoholic but what you are saying about loving him and not wanting to leave means this: you cannot change the alcoholic, you can only change yourself.
Ask yourself these few questions: Are you trying to interfere with the natural consequences that your husband should be dealing with because of his drinking?
Are you trying to do for him what he should do for himself?
Are you doing what you think is best for him or for yourself and your kids?
Sometimes, the most compassionate thing you can do for your alcoholic/addict is to let them take responsibility for their own actions.
Keep loving him Linda, but love him in a way that you can still continue to love yourself. Make some small changes in your own life. Demonstrate to him AT ALL TIMES that you are important. If you don't look after yourself, you absolutely cannot look after him. Could I suggest a book for you. It was my lifesaver. My addict is three years clean now but I read a page of this book every day. It's called COURAGE TO CHANGE and is published by Al-Anon Family Groups. Get in touch with them, even if its just to get this book.
My love and thougts are with you, I know your pain.
The Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.
How do I cope with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic?
Linda, you are a good woman, most others would have been out of there with the kids at the first sign of trouble, forgetting the ';for better or worse'; vow they made.
You do not say if he is abusive, is he just down a lot?
If this is the case, then he is looking for the endorphin rush that he is, at present, getting from the bottle, and not from life.
You need to get him doing stuff that gives him as good a feeling as the drink does.
Getting him out of the house to do stuff, would, I assume be difficult, OK, you have to start slowly, and sex is a good start. If he, or you, have a fantasy, start there...and keep going...an orgasm is a good substitute for an alcoholic high, for anybody.
If you have never traditionally drunk alcohol with dinner, send the kids out to a babysitter, and you and him spend the evening together, cook him a meal of comfort foods, that he loves. Can't cook? Order some in, it tastes just as good, dress up, sexy, and seduce him. Make it obvious that you do love him, with touches, cuddles, kisses, and saying it, love is also a good substitute for alcohol.
Also, make sure someone, even one of the kids, is able to see him at all times. Alcoholics who know they have problems can prefer to drink in private, so do not give him that opportunity.
Finally, if he is keeping bottles in the house, suggest he keeps them in a locked cupboard, INSIDE, with the key outside in the garage so that it is not a simple matter to just go and have a drink. Keep bottles of juice in the fridge so that he can imitate the action he wants to do, without the undesirable consequences. Of course, suggesting the latter is not going to be easy, but if you can pick a time when he is sober, to discuss this, and, if you know that he does want to get off the drink, then he will likely be prepared to try this.
Good luck, if this starts him on the road to recovery, keep filling his time with endorphin raising activities...like dancing, playing ball games with the kids, going for bicycle rides with the kids. It does eventually happen. I was not an alcoholic, but I did drink a fair bit, I stopped when I moved in with my partner who provided me with a lot of love, and was a companion with whom to do the activities that were such a good substitute for the drink. I also made sure there was no alcohol in the house that I could get my hands on.
Make sure you and your kids are not ';enabling'; him in any way, or making excuses for him as was more or less mentioned earlier. You must understand ';co-dependancy'; and how it affects the entire family. I don't think you can live with an alcoholic and not have problems with co-dependancy.
If any of you enable him in any way...Stop. Make sure you and the kids are the priority....and you may have to make a hard choice...and so might he. How badly do his actions affect your family ? If they do, lay the law down...you can still love him and not allow the behavior...and he can make a choice between his family and alcohol. It usually has to be a very hard hitting in the face reality of him loosing everything before (he) will make that right choice...and you can support him in recovery if he will go that route. Just think about how much damage he may be doing to the rest of you, please study up on co-dependancy, and you take control of your life and your kids...and control what you will accept and not from him
It is difficult, but you need to either get him help or get away from him for your sake and especially for the sake of your children..you are choosing to be with this man and by allowing this behavior you are condoning it..however, you children did not ask for this and you are putting them at a very serious risk and giving them scars that will take many many years to heal...
I also grew up with an alcoholic, a functioning one. I never knew who I was coming home to. I love my father but wish my mom would have left him. Your husband is the one making the choice on divorce, you know - booze or family. It's his call, not your's. All you are doing is saying what behavior is not healthy for your family.
well you can try to do things with him during the hours that he usually drinks. if you do it often it could break his pattern/cycle of drinking. if he enjoys himself more often maybe he'll slow down. good luck
i grew up with an alcoholic. you know that you are risking your childrens futures. there is a HUGE chance that they will have issues when they get older. you need to tell him that he needs to clean up or move out.
Check out section 52 of my website, on alcohol, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact the various organisations shown.
alcoholics hm.. your kids could be at risk
i would try and get him some help or just talk to him about it
Hi Linda. I understand. Alcohol is like any other substance - meaning - alcohol or drugs - both the same. I say that because I'm passing on advice based on personal experience with someone in my family who was/is an addict. You may have some experience with dealing with the day to day life of an alcoholic but what you are saying about loving him and not wanting to leave means this: you cannot change the alcoholic, you can only change yourself.
Ask yourself these few questions: Are you trying to interfere with the natural consequences that your husband should be dealing with because of his drinking?
Are you trying to do for him what he should do for himself?
Are you doing what you think is best for him or for yourself and your kids?
Sometimes, the most compassionate thing you can do for your alcoholic/addict is to let them take responsibility for their own actions.
Keep loving him Linda, but love him in a way that you can still continue to love yourself. Make some small changes in your own life. Demonstrate to him AT ALL TIMES that you are important. If you don't look after yourself, you absolutely cannot look after him. Could I suggest a book for you. It was my lifesaver. My addict is three years clean now but I read a page of this book every day. It's called COURAGE TO CHANGE and is published by Al-Anon Family Groups. Get in touch with them, even if its just to get this book.
My love and thougts are with you, I know your pain.
The Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.
How do I cope with my husband who is a functioning alcoholic?
Linda, you are a good woman, most others would have been out of there with the kids at the first sign of trouble, forgetting the ';for better or worse'; vow they made.
You do not say if he is abusive, is he just down a lot?
If this is the case, then he is looking for the endorphin rush that he is, at present, getting from the bottle, and not from life.
You need to get him doing stuff that gives him as good a feeling as the drink does.
Getting him out of the house to do stuff, would, I assume be difficult, OK, you have to start slowly, and sex is a good start. If he, or you, have a fantasy, start there...and keep going...an orgasm is a good substitute for an alcoholic high, for anybody.
If you have never traditionally drunk alcohol with dinner, send the kids out to a babysitter, and you and him spend the evening together, cook him a meal of comfort foods, that he loves. Can't cook? Order some in, it tastes just as good, dress up, sexy, and seduce him. Make it obvious that you do love him, with touches, cuddles, kisses, and saying it, love is also a good substitute for alcohol.
Also, make sure someone, even one of the kids, is able to see him at all times. Alcoholics who know they have problems can prefer to drink in private, so do not give him that opportunity.
Finally, if he is keeping bottles in the house, suggest he keeps them in a locked cupboard, INSIDE, with the key outside in the garage so that it is not a simple matter to just go and have a drink. Keep bottles of juice in the fridge so that he can imitate the action he wants to do, without the undesirable consequences. Of course, suggesting the latter is not going to be easy, but if you can pick a time when he is sober, to discuss this, and, if you know that he does want to get off the drink, then he will likely be prepared to try this.
Good luck, if this starts him on the road to recovery, keep filling his time with endorphin raising activities...like dancing, playing ball games with the kids, going for bicycle rides with the kids. It does eventually happen. I was not an alcoholic, but I did drink a fair bit, I stopped when I moved in with my partner who provided me with a lot of love, and was a companion with whom to do the activities that were such a good substitute for the drink. I also made sure there was no alcohol in the house that I could get my hands on.
Make sure you and your kids are not ';enabling'; him in any way, or making excuses for him as was more or less mentioned earlier. You must understand ';co-dependancy'; and how it affects the entire family. I don't think you can live with an alcoholic and not have problems with co-dependancy.
If any of you enable him in any way...Stop. Make sure you and the kids are the priority....and you may have to make a hard choice...and so might he. How badly do his actions affect your family ? If they do, lay the law down...you can still love him and not allow the behavior...and he can make a choice between his family and alcohol. It usually has to be a very hard hitting in the face reality of him loosing everything before (he) will make that right choice...and you can support him in recovery if he will go that route. Just think about how much damage he may be doing to the rest of you, please study up on co-dependancy, and you take control of your life and your kids...and control what you will accept and not from him
It is difficult, but you need to either get him help or get away from him for your sake and especially for the sake of your children..you are choosing to be with this man and by allowing this behavior you are condoning it..however, you children did not ask for this and you are putting them at a very serious risk and giving them scars that will take many many years to heal...
I also grew up with an alcoholic, a functioning one. I never knew who I was coming home to. I love my father but wish my mom would have left him. Your husband is the one making the choice on divorce, you know - booze or family. It's his call, not your's. All you are doing is saying what behavior is not healthy for your family.
well you can try to do things with him during the hours that he usually drinks. if you do it often it could break his pattern/cycle of drinking. if he enjoys himself more often maybe he'll slow down. good luck
i grew up with an alcoholic. you know that you are risking your childrens futures. there is a HUGE chance that they will have issues when they get older. you need to tell him that he needs to clean up or move out.
Check out section 52 of my website, on alcohol, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact the various organisations shown.
alcoholics hm.. your kids could be at risk
i would try and get him some help or just talk to him about it
What happens if wife does not sign divorce papers?
My wife decided she was very unhappy with being married to me and wanted us to go our separate ways and wanted us to sell our house. We put our house on the market but then she asked if she could get a loan and buy me out which I agreed to. We got separation papers signed back on Sept. 13 2006 and her loan finally got approved Dec. 2006 and I was able to purchase a house that same month. By doing this I lost a great deal of money if we had sold the house instead but I did not want her to be miserable so I allowed her to have the house and give me $25,000. Since then she has fallen on hard times and is severely depressed and has not worked in months but I have moved on and trying to cope the best I can. I filed for divorce yesterday but was wondering although we have separation papers signed with both agreeing on everything what happenes if she refuses to sign the papers. How long can this go on like that in the state of Virginia?What happens if wife does not sign divorce papers?
You have to take her to courtWhat happens if wife does not sign divorce papers?
i live in MO...i don't know about Virginia, but, i think that once the papers are filed, the proceedings go on and a judge can grant you a divorce whether she wants one or not
like anywhere else, if she is not going to cooperate she'll have to be served, forced to court dates etc, you'll almost certainly need a lawyer. she can string it out for months at least I imagine.
LOL....I would just tell my attorney to tell her (or her attorney) that SHE wanted it this way....remember that SHE wanted the seperation in the first place....I would take the $25,000 and buy a mobile home, cheap...put it on a lot and find another girl...they (women) are on every street corner, pimpin' themselves out....LMFAO...this one is so simple....whatever you do...STAND YOUR GROUND OR YOU ARE SCREWED!!!!
If she never signs, the judge will order the marriage dissolved. You cannot stop a divorce when 1 party wants out.
if she dosen't sign the papers than trick her on signing the papers and than if you want just leave.
the divorce should proceed, once the court gets the papers, a court date will be set, she can respond or not respond but it will not stop the divorce. but she can always change her mind and not agree to what was agreed to in the divorce. sounds as if she is having second thoughts, i would get an attorney if u don't already have one. she can respond any way she wants in the divorce, and change the whole deal unfortunately.
then you don't get divorced. don't you have a lawyer for this? aske them.
Talk to your attorney... You may be able to get the judge to grant the divorce anyway...
You have to take her to courtWhat happens if wife does not sign divorce papers?
i live in MO...i don't know about Virginia, but, i think that once the papers are filed, the proceedings go on and a judge can grant you a divorce whether she wants one or not
like anywhere else, if she is not going to cooperate she'll have to be served, forced to court dates etc, you'll almost certainly need a lawyer. she can string it out for months at least I imagine.
LOL....I would just tell my attorney to tell her (or her attorney) that SHE wanted it this way....remember that SHE wanted the seperation in the first place....I would take the $25,000 and buy a mobile home, cheap...put it on a lot and find another girl...they (women) are on every street corner, pimpin' themselves out....LMFAO...this one is so simple....whatever you do...STAND YOUR GROUND OR YOU ARE SCREWED!!!!
If she never signs, the judge will order the marriage dissolved. You cannot stop a divorce when 1 party wants out.
if she dosen't sign the papers than trick her on signing the papers and than if you want just leave.
the divorce should proceed, once the court gets the papers, a court date will be set, she can respond or not respond but it will not stop the divorce. but she can always change her mind and not agree to what was agreed to in the divorce. sounds as if she is having second thoughts, i would get an attorney if u don't already have one. she can respond any way she wants in the divorce, and change the whole deal unfortunately.
then you don't get divorced. don't you have a lawyer for this? aske them.
Talk to your attorney... You may be able to get the judge to grant the divorce anyway...
How can you cope with tragedy during pregnancy?
Sometimes life strike with tragedy and this can happen at any time
(Family sickness or death, infertility, Bankrupcy, Divorce, Not having who can take care of a disabled close relative, etc.)
I am 15 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I am facing one of those tragedies
I am trying real hard to stay focused on my health, specially my emosional health
What can I do to ensure I can survive this hard times and not affect my baby?
My life has been turned inside out
I have gone through hard times before but now I am sharing my body with this inocent new life.
I am so scared of hurting him
I have heard of women miscarrying out of a traumatic event
If any of you have had this misfortune, would you be so kind to share some enlightment?How can you cope with tragedy during pregnancy?
I lost my mama to cancer when I was pregnant with my first son. She found out she had cancer in january and less than a month later she left this world. We were totally unprepared for this loss- nobody wants to lose their mama, especially at such a time when you should be out looking at baby things ';oo'ing'; and ';ahh'ing'; together. Anyways, I was having big problems with my baby's father (had my heart torn out and thrown in the garbage disposal basically) and cried just about every night for months. Now, I look at my son and think of what a sweet little boy he is. He had to deal with all his mommy's hurt and pain and mourning, and he came out as such a happy and sweet little boy. He's 6 years old now, helps me with his new little brother and has hugs and kisses for everyone. Don't worry about your baby- they can find the love and live off of that and just grow into happy little kids. I guess what I'm saying is that find something, anything that makes you happy- it might just be the fact that you're growing a wonderful new baby and cling to it. You'll smile to yourself knowing that you just felt your baby kick you in the bladder and you have to jump up and run to the bathroom. ;-)
Congrats on your new baby and cope the best you can. =)How can you cope with tragedy during pregnancy?
When I was pregnant with my daughter my best friend's mom died, and my closest Uncle died. It was very, very hard, but you have to get through it for your baby's sake. Just try and get out and take your mind off things. Go to a movie preferably a comedy. Go out with friends, distract yourself. I was depressed, and had lost 2 people in my life. My daughter didn't really laugh until she was 15 months old, a few times for her brother, but that was it. Now she's a very normal, sweet, funny 22 month old. Good luck, and take it easy!
I was 7 months pregnant when my niece was killed in a car accident. I stayed with my sister for the first week and a half after. Holding it all in so that I could be strong for her. My best advice would be to surround your self with supportive friends and family and when you need to cry, just do it. (aside from a c-section, the birth went fine and he is a bundle of energy today)
Yes,i have had that problem,and developed a serious illness after the Baby(a Boy) came 28 yrs ago.Please for your own sake,take care of yourself!
When you bottle up things, they get worse, causing more stress. Just have a good cry and talk to someone about it. If I can't talk to anyone, I just write how I'm feeling. Usually when I'm done, I feel a lot better about the situation.stars myspace school loans
(Family sickness or death, infertility, Bankrupcy, Divorce, Not having who can take care of a disabled close relative, etc.)
I am 15 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I am facing one of those tragedies
I am trying real hard to stay focused on my health, specially my emosional health
What can I do to ensure I can survive this hard times and not affect my baby?
My life has been turned inside out
I have gone through hard times before but now I am sharing my body with this inocent new life.
I am so scared of hurting him
I have heard of women miscarrying out of a traumatic event
If any of you have had this misfortune, would you be so kind to share some enlightment?How can you cope with tragedy during pregnancy?
I lost my mama to cancer when I was pregnant with my first son. She found out she had cancer in january and less than a month later she left this world. We were totally unprepared for this loss- nobody wants to lose their mama, especially at such a time when you should be out looking at baby things ';oo'ing'; and ';ahh'ing'; together. Anyways, I was having big problems with my baby's father (had my heart torn out and thrown in the garbage disposal basically) and cried just about every night for months. Now, I look at my son and think of what a sweet little boy he is. He had to deal with all his mommy's hurt and pain and mourning, and he came out as such a happy and sweet little boy. He's 6 years old now, helps me with his new little brother and has hugs and kisses for everyone. Don't worry about your baby- they can find the love and live off of that and just grow into happy little kids. I guess what I'm saying is that find something, anything that makes you happy- it might just be the fact that you're growing a wonderful new baby and cling to it. You'll smile to yourself knowing that you just felt your baby kick you in the bladder and you have to jump up and run to the bathroom. ;-)
Congrats on your new baby and cope the best you can. =)How can you cope with tragedy during pregnancy?
When I was pregnant with my daughter my best friend's mom died, and my closest Uncle died. It was very, very hard, but you have to get through it for your baby's sake. Just try and get out and take your mind off things. Go to a movie preferably a comedy. Go out with friends, distract yourself. I was depressed, and had lost 2 people in my life. My daughter didn't really laugh until she was 15 months old, a few times for her brother, but that was it. Now she's a very normal, sweet, funny 22 month old. Good luck, and take it easy!
I was 7 months pregnant when my niece was killed in a car accident. I stayed with my sister for the first week and a half after. Holding it all in so that I could be strong for her. My best advice would be to surround your self with supportive friends and family and when you need to cry, just do it. (aside from a c-section, the birth went fine and he is a bundle of energy today)
Yes,i have had that problem,and developed a serious illness after the Baby(a Boy) came 28 yrs ago.Please for your own sake,take care of yourself!
When you bottle up things, they get worse, causing more stress. Just have a good cry and talk to someone about it. If I can't talk to anyone, I just write how I'm feeling. Usually when I'm done, I feel a lot better about the situation.
How do i deal with my parents divorce and moving?
my parents split about a week ago. my dad already moved out and i have to live with him. i love this house and i love my mom dearly. i don't know if i can stand it. is there any advice you can give me to cope with leaving my beloved house, and my mom? if so please help.How do i deal with my parents divorce and moving?
I dont think there is a specific way to cope with what you are dealing with right now. None of us here in 'answers' will help you how you want. the best thing would be to talk to your best friend, or someone that you feel you can trust other than your parents. Im going through the same, although my parents are not splitting up (although I can feel a divorce really close) i talk to my best friend, since she constantly goes through the same .. she understands me. It feels nice to talk to someone, its like lifting something that has been pressing against your chest. Try it.
- Good Luck.How do i deal with my parents divorce and moving?
When my parents split ti was one of the hardest things i ever had to go through. it seems like dumb parents these days just cant stay together. it was werid because my dads and my moms side of the family were close. any ways what helped me is being with friends. i found myself alot of good people at my church who helped me. if you dont go to church, go with a friend! the things that made me feel the worse was when i was by myself or my parents tried to talk to me about it. so mainly i would just soround myself with fun people, but people that i could talk to when i felt downabout the whole thing. i hope this helped. remember god is always with you even whenyou think hes not!
Be flexible. Also, give more effort and learning how to adapt to your surrounding and appreciate what you have. Not everyone is fortunate to say that they have a mom or dad.
Be blessed.
I dont think there is a specific way to cope with what you are dealing with right now. None of us here in 'answers' will help you how you want. the best thing would be to talk to your best friend, or someone that you feel you can trust other than your parents. Im going through the same, although my parents are not splitting up (although I can feel a divorce really close) i talk to my best friend, since she constantly goes through the same .. she understands me. It feels nice to talk to someone, its like lifting something that has been pressing against your chest. Try it.
- Good Luck.How do i deal with my parents divorce and moving?
When my parents split ti was one of the hardest things i ever had to go through. it seems like dumb parents these days just cant stay together. it was werid because my dads and my moms side of the family were close. any ways what helped me is being with friends. i found myself alot of good people at my church who helped me. if you dont go to church, go with a friend! the things that made me feel the worse was when i was by myself or my parents tried to talk to me about it. so mainly i would just soround myself with fun people, but people that i could talk to when i felt downabout the whole thing. i hope this helped. remember god is always with you even whenyou think hes not!
Be flexible. Also, give more effort and learning how to adapt to your surrounding and appreciate what you have. Not everyone is fortunate to say that they have a mom or dad.
Be blessed.
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