How can i help my son cope with all these changes?

My son is 3, and me and my husband (not his dad, but has been around since he was an infant) are getting a divorce. My soon to be ex, is being a big asss about it, and says since hes not his son, he doesnt want to keep seeing him. I dont know if hes just being a dick, or if he means it, but it worries me, because my son calls him dad, and hes the only dad my son has known. Not only that, we are moving, and since were moving kind of far away, he will be in a different daycare. So i am very nervous that all these changes are going to affect him seriously. He has already started sucking his thumb (never did before), so i can tell all the tension is already affecting him. Any tips on how to help him cope? Anything to make the move/transistion easier on him? Help!How can i help my son cope with all these changes?
Be his friend and mommy that is what he needs. Surround him as much as possible with familiar items and maybe at first make an acception and let him sleep in your room. Dedicate alot more time to him to show him that you love him and it isn't his fault. Do Not try to never bring up his ';dad'; again because he will want to talk and needs to know that is ok. As for your ex...joking or not he is a dick for acting like such an inconsiderate bastard. He is not only hurting you...which is mean...but more so he is hurting a 3 year old which is unacceptable. Good Luck.





P.S. Make sure to get him into playgroups so that he won't withdraw.How can i help my son cope with all these changes?
well since it is not his son and he didn't adopt the boy then he has no legal responsibility to him. to be honest if you two can't get along there is little motivation for him to come around. to be honest if i was in his shoes i wouldn't fight you to see him. anyways you need to go out of your way to comfort your son. hold him, play with him, what ever it is that you two usually do together. other than that you just need time and plenty of understanding.
He is going to feel some real insecurity for a while. Show him you love him and that you are never going to leave him. He needs to know that you will be there. Three is young to understand all the adult problems. At that age they can adjust better than older kids. Just give him lots of love.
All I can say is that if you don't ever plan on getting back together with your ex, you should let him go. Have him say goodbye to the young lad and let him be history. Since he is not the biological father, he would fade out of the picture real soon anyway. Better to let him go now so that your son doesn't do anymore bonding with him, that would just make things worst. As moving away is concerned, I think your son will adjust without to much of a problem. By this time next year this will all be a distant memory for him. Good luck.
your son is 3, in 6 months without seeing this man again he will not know him. If things are bad get out now before your son gets any older.
It would been hard for you to be at two different place at one time.He is so young %26amp; adorable son.His future is in your hand.


Spend time %26amp; be there for him that is the best medicine of all.You could seek help from the Family Care Service Centre for your boy.There you could have a proper guideline to handle your situation.All the best to you.
Not really, but that's okay. Take it from a ';son'; who's been through a devorce... and it was my real dad. It's going to take it's toll... just be there for him is the best thing you can do. Listen to him if he says someone is picking on him, he may be a bit over sensitive for a while and other's will not care... you'll need to care for them. Besides that, just be a mom and that's what he needs...





and on the sucking the thumb... dont worry about it... my brother did it for a while...if it doesn't stop after a few months try using a nasty tasting hand wash soap... so when he washes his hands he doesn't wanna suck his thumb anymore. ;)
Well since he's only three, buy him a lot of new toys and give it to him one by one. Don't be harsh with him at all, and spend a lot of time with him. He's really young and I really don't remember much from even four. The only things I remember were being at the pool and holding up my fingers at preschool to show how old I was. So really, if you just sort of shelter the fact that you're getting divorced and he won't be seeing his daddy anymore, he probably won't remember it. Plus kid's are cool with daycare. I remember one day hating a kid and then the next, they were my best friend.
This trick has worked in my family. Take your son to visit you exes mom dad sister or someone in his family's home. Say we just thought we should say goodbye for good. Since **** doesn't want to see (your sons name) anymore I thought I'd let him come say goodbye. I promise you the family will yell at him! Plus they'll make him feel like what he is! It is okay to let your son call him dad. To be honest to try and change that isn't right. Although you are not getting along with this man and your son is young he is stil important.





Nextly, the thumb sucking is probably just a phase. But in your new daycare center try to get your son to be social. If he has friends in school it will make him happier





Hope I helped





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At that age the only thing they really understand is love. Make sure he feels the love and hope for the best.
if this man is serious, you shouldn't want him in your child's life. the thumbsucking does sound like a sign of stress which your son is too young to manage, if you can afford it (no rudeness intended) find a good therapist in the new area for your son. good luck and God bless!
If you have any brothers, even your own father, or any other males you are close to get them invovled in his life right away. Tell them to come take your son out on the regular. or just come over to spend some time with him often. That should help. Dont mention his ex step dad anymore. If he ask give him a simple answer and move on.
Leave hime if hes being an As ss!!!!