Going through a lot of depression with a divorce anyone been through this have any advice how to cope?

My ex and I are getting divorced and we have one son. She doesn't want to reconcile, I do and she is already seeing someone else while we are living together. I would do anything to get things back to a better place because I really wanted this family to stay together but I guess it is too late. She plans on moving out in a few months to her fathers which is in the next state. My biggest dream just got flushed down the toilet. I am so sad and depressed. Has anyone gone through this and how did you cope? When did life start getting back to normal. Crazy thing is that she seems to be happier even though we broke up only a month ago. She says she loves me but is not in love with me anymore. I am going nuts, can't sleep at night while she goes out dating this other guy.Going through a lot of depression with a divorce anyone been through this have any advice how to cope?
One of you should move out. Living together still is destructive, particularly for you. Then, go out and find a new relationship. It may seem difficult to get started, but go for it.Going through a lot of depression with a divorce anyone been through this have any advice how to cope?
Hang in there guy ....what you need is to go hang out with some uplifting buddies ...You are bound to find yourself a nice woman how will apreciate you ...maybe rub your back and feet too ! Sorry but yourso called soon to be EX .will rot in hell somewhere you deserve BETTTER and you will find and GET A WHOLE LOT BETTER elsewhere ! You just have not met her yet GIVE IT A SHOT !


Oh and pray real hard ALWAYS !
a little booze wont hurt no one
sorry this wont help much. I got D'd six years ago,. I did not want to, we could have worked on couselling ( I tried v. hard, he was resistant but that is marriage- you have to support and work on it), and so I didn't want to D him.


I was depressed and seeing phychiatrist for being so depressed and living not in my home, but in an apt.





I miss him every day and want to get back all the time.Every time I go hom I get excited, then remember I am not going hom. I have not got back to normal, I hate feeling this way and want to be happy but the love has gopne- he was the love, And even though yes the love came from me, I need to be in that partnership to be full.


Im sorry , not much help. Please stay good friends. At least you have that. But don't know if that makes it worse.


How do I cope, I email him and think about getting back together all the time. but like I said, maybe that's not good to think.


For me it helps to stay really good friends.





If you're not good friends when you're together in anycase it is bad. SO I feel good he is my best friend.





She is only rebounding with that guy. DOn't think about that/
I have a male friend who is going through this EXACT situation(except she made him leave the home). She is refusing to reconcile and seeing the man who she had been cheating with the last couple of years behind his back. Believe me, she'll have hers coming. Remember, what comes around goes around. Most of the time the ';lovers'; involved, rarely marry the cheating spouse. Once you divorce, more than likely, he'll dump her for a woman he can trust and respect to not cheat(that will always be in the back of his mind if he marries her, which is why he probably won't. She doesn't realize that though because she thinks she's ';in love.'; She'll know though once her heart is broken and maybe then she'll be able to feel and understand the pain she caused you. Often it takes having to be hurt in order to reflect on how we've treated someone else. As for now, she has her head in the clouds.) Hang in there man, it hurts but life will get easier. Find someone who is not going to treat you this way, no one deserves to be cheated on(esp right in front of their face). I would tell her she needs to leave the home if she is going to continue that relationship because right now, she is disrespecting you and the marriage. Why should she be able to fool around and then come home?





People always think the grass is always greener on the other side until they get over there and see that it's full of poop!
There may be a longing for freedom and a single life again. However, the matter is not as simple as that. Said sociologist Robert Weiss: “People need to understand that divorce is drastic surgery.”


Such expressions indicate the pain that can come from severing the bonds that once existed. These bonds between man and wife include those that are physical, emotional, mental and, in some cases, spiritual. To cut all that asunder is indeed “drastic surgery.” And this is not surprising when we consider what the Maker of marriage, Almighty God, said after establishing the first such union: “A man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.”—Genesis 2:24.


If your marriage is in danger, think carefully. And think again. Is it possible that your marriage can be saved, and thus you and those involved can be spared the agonizing consequences, of which we have discussed only a few?


Recall the happiness of your courting days. What went wrong after that? Is it your mate’s fault or yours? Or both? Has there been a failure in three of the basic requirements of a good marriage—communication, cooperation and consideration? Even if your failures have been only partly to blame, have you said “sorry”? Just saying that sincerely and humbly can often free a deadlock in the marital partnership.


Of course, marriage problems often become so complicated that man and wife are no longer able to correct them without help. But where can a person go for help? There are many marriage counselors in this world, and often their advice is helpful. Yet, because there is no common standard among them, their views may be contradictory. What a marriage in trouble needs is the very best counsel that comes from the most reliable source. Where can it be found?


The best counsel on marriage comes from the One who has the best knowledge of human nature, and the most experience. The Creator, the Almighty God Jehovah, made man and woman. He brought them together in the first marriage. He has had thousands of years of experience in viewing marriage. Hence, when he gives us counsel in his inspired Word, the Bible, it works! When both parties in a marriage adhere to God’s counsel, serious marriage troubles can be avoided or solved if they do appear. And often, where only one mate works hard to apply the counsel, good results can still be obtained.


Among Jehovah’s Witnesses there are many men and women with a deep understanding of marital problems. They can give counsel that many others cannot. Why? Because they adhere strictly to the best standards, those that God lays down in his own Word. If your marriage is in trouble, why not discuss it with them? Since they may not be your parents or close friends, they can take an impartial view.
Stay involved without being involved. In other words, know what's going on but try to stay detached from it. Sounds difficult but it's easy to do once you realize that you're only hurting yourself by worrying about it. Obviously she's doing what she thinks she wants. It's very very hard to say this because you're in pain from the whole thing but here it is: If you truly love her let her go. Focus on your son and making sure this whole thing isn't messing his life up. If it's meant to be she will wake up and realize that she has made a huge mistake. If not, then you're better off anyway because someone else is coming along for you who's better suited to you. Keep your chin up.
SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN.


but at least she let you know rather than cheat on you, right? Who knows how long she has been unhappy, maybe she has put effort in seeing change, had she ever brought up the topic of seperation before? Maybe she's going thru a phase in her life where she wants to branch out, and try a new romance, i dont know how old you guys were when y ou got married, but.


idk seriously, you guys have a kid together so you will forever be connected, make sure and take her to court for visitation rights as you should stay in your childs life.


Other than that, again im sorry for your pain but, it takes 2 to make a relationship work.
its time to move on .I know FIRST hand how hard its for you but don't let your heart over rule your head its time to be real Davide the bill up go to court and get custody of your son and once this is done kick her to the curb becase years later you will allways will love her but deep in side you dont really trust her and that is #1 thing in marrage if she going out with guys in front of you gruss what she doing behind your back dont be a door mat I hope you all the best .
All though you may think it ...YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Start doing the things you couldn't or would never do while you were married. Go see a show you know she would never want to see. Eat food that she would never fix for you. Do all those little things that use to annoy her. Hang out with friends you knew she couldn't stand. Just be rebellious in a sensible way. Things will get better with time. And then you'll start wondering why you didn't divorce sooner. Set new goals and dream bigger and better dreams. It will be all right.