How to cope with divorce..........please advise?

My marriage failed catastrophically yesterday....me and my wife just dont communicate anymore....im too opposite to her...im loud and brash...perhaps a bit outspoken...and she is quiet and shy....





I will admit i took that girl for granted and its the biggest mistake ive ever made in my life....and there is nothing id prefer right now than to be warming myself up next to her just hugging....but i fear she will never be fully happy with me....i cant give her the attention she needs....she is needy and i am selfish.





I cant bare to see her again...but ive got two gawjuss young kids with her...i know that for her to be happy i need to stay away from her and i really really really want her to be happy...i cant go back because we will just go back to square one and be arguing always fighting in front of our children and thats not fair





I know my marriage has failed...but if i succeed at one thing...i want to be a good parent





Jessica (my estranged) needs to realise she would be a fool to have me back and i want this break up to hurt her as little as possible.How to cope with divorce..........please advise?
If this is how you truely feel then go and get counselling together, counselling is not just aimed at staying together it also takes the heat out of the situation and enables both parties to talk and come to terms with something that is not working enabling both parties themselves to come to terms with things in a different,calmer manner.How to cope with divorce..........please advise?
If you are such type of peron, why did you marry her for the first place? She gave you two beautiful children and your are being un-thankful. I take it that you are selfish but what do you want to achieve in life your wife and children cannot be a part of?
before you give up have you thought of marraige councelling? you are not entirely selfish if you are willing to let her go because you think its best for her so there may be hope. maybe some time apart will help you both. good luck.
Your marriage has not failed yet. There is hope.


You have the right attitude, you are willing to admit your mistakes.


You want to be with her, so you still love her, and you care about your kids.





My advice is for both of you to go to marriage councelling. These people know what they do and can help you.


Do not give up before you have tried councelling.


Tell your wife that you love her, that you want to make a change for good, but that you need help.


Ask her to go with you for councelling because you really want to change.


See the councellor as soon as possible, in many countries such services are run by the government and it is free.





If you really want to, you CAN make it work.