HOW IN THE HECK DO YOU COPE WITH DIVORCE?

i literally feel like im dying.. my husband told me to go out with my friends so i did then we got a flat tire and i called him and he tells me it sounds like you got yourself into quite a predicament good luck trying to figure it out. i get home and he tells me to get my ****, get out, and this wasnt my home anymore. he abandoned me and our 5 month old son how do you get over it and when will it stop hurting??





also hes always always mean to me saying hurtful stuff and trying to hurt me. i should have left him a long time ago but what about our son? its hard ya know. weve been seperated for almost a week now and the main thing im terrified of is seeing him with another girl idk what ill do!HOW IN THE HECK DO YOU COPE WITH DIVORCE?
I know a lot of divorced people and they all say time really does help and you just have to endure it until you start feeling better. It's tough emotionally but after what he's done you should feel relieved without him, right? That's what I was told.





Now on to a practical point of view you need to get a lawyer to find out what you are entitled to financiallyHOW IN THE HECK DO YOU COPE WITH DIVORCE?
Sounds to me like you're not ready to give up on this marriage.Would he be willing to go for counseling or talk with your preacher?He can't legally kick you out,I don't think.Personally I wouldn't want to be with someone who down right didn't want me.If that's the case,perhaps you should talk to a lawyer.
i hate to break it to you but you sound young and you're probably not that well educated. it would be in the best interest of you and your child to find a relative to adopt your child,go back to school, and try your best to move on with your life. good luck!
The first thing you need to do, regardless of how the rest turns out, is see a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. If there are women's advocacy organizations in your area they may even be able to arrange for free representation (if you are in financial difficulty because of the separation). In most divorces or separations where children are involved the custodial parent (generally that would be you the mother) is legally entitled to the home and vehicle (unless there are two in which case you only get one of them). This does vary by state, but it's not uncommon. Knowing he's about to find his butt out on the street he might change his mind (although I wouldn't trust his butt after this stunt)





After you address your legal needs I would begin addressing your financial needs (the lawyer can help with that, but you'll need to adjust your finances to cover the new circumstances).





Then I would address the hurt. Hurt passes. In addition to that you should never depend on another individual for your happiness. Each individuals happiness is their own responsibility. Take some classes if you can, a hobby, it doesn't even have to cost any money, just invest in yourself. Things WILL get better. I've been there I know. You just have to help them out a little and to do that you need to be in the drivers seat and not your fears or your pain.
I understand the pain. It's all over the place.


You now know that the more you put into a marriage the more pain that can come. Obviously, you've put in the ';right stuff'; - your husband has not.


Who's the better person?





What can you do to change your husband's behavior?


Nothing. You can rant and scream, plead and cry and he doesn't have to do anything. It seems as if he won't.


Time to stand back and figure out how to handle this crap by your lonesome.





Google up divorcecare.com and GO!


It will bring you to understand WHY you're feeling what you're feeling and help you move into a new place of self-awareness and discovery about the pain of separation and divorce.