Through 10 years my mom has been re-married 2 times with 4 step brothers and sisters. I was born an only child, so it has been hard to be acquainted with new family. I'm 16 right now, and It's hard to live with a strange man i hardly know. It's just...akward. I don't feel comfortable in my house, it's frustrating.
Thanks for advice, if you can.How to cope with divorce and remarriage?
Ask respectfully to live with your Dad or Grandma where you can be comfortable.
If no, then you have 2 years before college and you are a grownup. Try to keep busy during this time so you don't have to spend much time being uncomfortable. Focus on your education and career. Study and maybe get an after-school job.
Joy to you!How to cope with divorce and remarriage?
don't interfere in their problems ,you will never be able to take away yourself out of this But try to focus on you .don't waste your life in thinking ,and don't day dream that things will be better and like before
i have one request ,,try to take your family step by step and it will never be easy but its possible trust me i ve been there
Your father helped bring you into this world and he has a financially respsonibility to support you. Kudos to your mother for not making excuses for him. This must be very frustrating for her when she tries to get that through your head.
Begin to seek God. We may not understand a lot of things that happen in life. But, God can give us peace in our mind to help deal with any situation. Have you ever talked with your father about living with him, if that could make you more comfortable. The Word of God has answers and comfort for every problem in our life. Hopefully your mothers new husband does not do anything to make you uncomfortable, if so talk to your mother first and then your father if you don't get understanding from your mother, concerning it. To get in church and let God comfort you through hearing his Word preached and reading his Word also. Would really help you, too. I attend a Seven Day Adventist Church. Just make sure you get into a church who preaches the Word of God. It will add a lot to your life.
When ur mom starts to bash ur dad in ur presence, kindly ask her to not do that! That is ur dad and U don't appreciate her saying terrible things about him in front of U. If she continues, walk out of the room. Go outside. Show her (w/that action) that U will not tolerate her bashing ur dad! Sadly, when there is a divorce, there is often times too much bitterness between the parents that they can't get over! And sometimes, they don't wanna (sounds like that is ur mom). But, it is of no concern of urs! U need to focus on U!
I would find out if there is a custody order between ur mom and dad. And if there isn't, then I would talk to ur mom about going to live w/ur dad. I wonder if there is even a court order 4 support (or ur mom is just bitchin' cause he doesn't VOLUNTARILY give her money). If she won't allow U, then ask about another relative. And make sure U tell her that her constant bashing of ur dad is taxing U out too much. If there is an order of custody, then, sadly U are stuck. Unless U can get a Guardian @ Lit em and tell them that ur mom is trying to Parentally Alienate ur dad. U can call CPS and talk to a counselor there.
And ur parents divorce had NOTHING 2 do w/U! It was their short comings that led to it!
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