How do you cope with divorce when children are involved?

I have been separated from my ex for over 2 yrs %26amp; we have 2 small children, ages 6 %26amp; 8. We have joint custody %26amp; we share the time with them almost equally. When I am away from them I am a mess %26amp; can't help but blame myself for this mess. How do i move forward %26amp; try to feel happiness again? I feel like my life is just falling apart!How do you cope with divorce when children are involved?
Sounds more like you're feeling sorry for YOURSELF. The kids will be fine. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy. Is it hard? yes. The best thing for you to do is make sure you're being a good female role model for your children. Don't ever let them see you while you're goin through one of your spells. Have your house/life in order and concentrate on other activities while your kids are gone. Regardless if you like your ex or not, the kids will be cared for. You'll get through this.How do you cope with divorce when children are involved?
It is hard, I felt the same when I separated from my husband. After a while of feeling sorry for myself I decided to use the time constructively and enrolled back into university so I can eventually get a better job to support my son.... as others have said you can't find a more trustworthy babysitter. Focus on using the time wisely, whether that means joining new social groups, trying all the things you've wanted to and never have etc. Keeping busy is the key! It is hard when being a mum was your life and then suddenly you feel as if your purpose has been taken away, I get that, but go out and find yourself and your children will also reap the rewards.
Find something positive to do when the children are at your exes. I know how you feel, I felt the same way when my kids weren't with me. Stop blaming yourself, you did the right thing. I've known many adults who are a total mess because their parents ';stayed together for the kids';.





Find something positive to do, maybe join a dating service and meet some new people or join a club or organization in your community. If you get out there and give a little, you'll be surprised at what you'll get back.
first, figure out how to forgive yourself. second, each day do things for the good of your kids and for the good of your situation, stay positive, and never bad mouth your ex. if you owe any apologies for the ';mess'; that you have not extended, do so. then live your life with honesty and with integrity thru every decision that you make. trust me when i tell you this that it will make you feel so much better and will make you a better person. good luck....
I am in a similar situation.. we don't share time equally but when they are not here it is too quiet and a little lonely. I'm sure as time passes I will enlarge my social circle so that I have something fun to do while the kids are with their father. On the bright side - we do not have to be with men who were not right for us and we have built in baby sitters we trust with our kids totally! Things will get better!!!
I enjoy the time alone with my new hubby, when my son is gone.


We stay pretty busy and I still talk to my son all the time.



asks forgiveness and start your relationship with your ex