How can I help my two year old cope with Divorce?

My Husband and I are seperating and we have a two year old little boy. My question is... Is there a way I can make him understand what is going on? And what is the best way to help him cope with the changes? How can I help my two year old cope with Divorce?
The best way to help him with the changes is to keep a solid routine and stable homes. If he feels secure staying with dad and having a routine there, also a secure place with you, he should feel secure with your new relationship with his dad. Also, try to remain on the same page with your ex husband. You are always going to share parenthood together. There are going to be some really challanging times ahead with potty training and dicipline, so try to communicate and agree on parenting style. Keep your feelings to yourself when you little boy is around and he probably won't be hurt by any of this. Explain that Mommy and Daddy won't be living together anymore and remind him constantly how much you love him. How can I help my two year old cope with Divorce?
Just say calmly that daddy isn't going to be there anymore, and that hes going to be going away for a while. Act as if nothing is wrong, your baby isn't old enough to have complex feelings. What I mean by complex feelings is that the baby won't notice that anything is different because he doesn't understand what divorce is, and what difference it'll make to him. Take him to the park more often get him ice cream, or make some time so that both of you (your ex-husband and you) get to share the child, so to speak. That way everyone's happy, the little one gets to see both of his parents, he gets an adventure every time he's going back and forth, and you two get to see your baby without any big complications. I hope that everything works out for you guys!!





Peace and Love, Soraja
Kids look to you for actions and reactions. If you '; act'; non stressful around him, he will be calmer about this. DO not , and I repeat DO not ever trash talk the other parent ever in front of him. This will have negative effects on him for the rest of his life. It will make him insecure, angry, resentful and it might all backfire onto you.


Divorce is never easy, but as long as you reasure him that you both love him and both will be there for him, he will cope just fine. Let him understand that all though you both love him equally, its better to have two different homes instead of one. He is two, a little young to understand divorce and I wouldn't explain divorce to him in too much detail yet. But explain there is going to be some changes and its going to be OK.





Can I add this to you. I know you should never stay together just for the child's sake, but let me tell you this. When children are young, it takes a toll on your marriage. When they grow, you will go through stages in your marriage . They change and get easier. Your son is at the age that most couples seperate. Your torn between being married lovers, to being parents and its hard. Really think about this before you make it final. Good Luck.
I don't think there is a way to explain right now, because he probably doesn't fully understand marriage. He just understands he has his mommy and his daddy. I think i would just leave it where if he asks where daddy is, you tell him daddy is gone he is going to see him in 2 weeks (or whenever he is going to see him) and then he sees daddy and goes on his daddy visitation. Start calling things this is mommy's house and this is daddy's house. JUst don't put him in the middle of things or use him as a pawn, and don't help him think that the things you give him is better. IE your child will now have 2 houses, not just a house with you and visits daddy. Make sure he knows he is loved on both sides.
No there is no way you can make him understand what is going on.





You just need to keep everything positive. No yelling at eac hother in front of him, no arguments about him in front of him.





Continue to show him how much you both love him everyday. Tell him in toddlers terms that mommy and daddy can't live together anymore but you still love him the same and that will never change. One or two sentences are all you need or he will get confused.





Obviously you will see some changes in him as time goes on but you will just have to watch them and see if there is anything worth worrying about.





You really need to focus on loving your son and making sure you do everything in his best interest right now.
he is two, he do not need to hear the messy details of what a divorce is. I assume the both of you are not going to drag the child though a million and one custody battles (because really that is where the emotional trouble is with children and divorce) if he is still going to have regular and equal time with both of you all you have to do is explain that mommy and daddy are not going to live together anymore but you both still love him and will be with him whenever he needs either of you.





wherever his main home is then not much is going to change but the parent that is moving out should engage him in decorating and picking out the items in his room. He is old enough to have preferances now and able to tell you what he does and does not like, he has no say in mommy and daddy moving apart but he will feel like he has control and say if he is decorating his bedroom. Who cars if nothing in there matches as long as he is happy right :) That parent should actually take him to the store so he can say 'yeah! that is the blankie I want and thats the lamp' (even if one is Thomas and the other Barney)





Talk positivly of eachother even if you do not feel that way right now. NEVER trash the other parent because he still loves you both , and never fight in front of him. Keep the lines of communication open between you and your ex, you might not be sleeping togetehr anymore but you still have a child together nad nothing says you can not be friends and civil for the childs sake.





If the child sees mom and dad happy they will be happy.