How do I cope? Newborn, Cheating Husband, Divorce!!?

My son was born 2 weeks ago but me and my husband are having huggggge problems and now were getting a divorce and I am devestated.





heres the story


He is a mexican citizen i am a natural born citizen with no mexican blood in me. We got married when he was awaiting voluntary departure about a year and a half ago. We have been together for close to 4 years. I was living in mexico with my husband when I got pregnant we were both SOOOO excited cause we were finally gonna have a family together. I went home to the US when I was 14 weeks pregnant. Then on V-day he told me he didnt love me then he told me he cheated on me then said he was lying about it all. and I was dumb and believed him I got back together with him basically the day our son was born (March 15th 2010) then about 5 days later he told me he was choosing her over us. I gave him many many many chances and now hes just completely ignoring me and talking crap to me like im just some girl he messed with and threw to the side.





Its so hard and I have no idea how to cope with it all. My son always comes first Im all alone taking care of him 24/7 and its just SOOOO hard. I love my son more than anything in the world but I just feel like a horrible mom cuz Im always crying I feel completely depressed and everything seems to just be going wrong I feel like my son deserves so much better than what he has cuz alls I do is cry. I take care of my son he gets everything he needs and I try my hardest to be happy when im around him but its just so hard. I need some advice. I am completely heartbroken and its just so hard. please no negative comments.How do I cope? Newborn, Cheating Husband, Divorce!!?
I feel so bad for you cuz he did it at your most vulnerable time. Its so hard the few weeks after having a baby without dealing with all of that to. Do you have a friend or a neighbor that could come take your mind off all of it? You need to talk to someone about it but its ok to be sad first. Just remember it gets worse before it gets better. You'll make it though cuz you have your baby boy that needs you. Take it one day at a time.How do I cope? Newborn, Cheating Husband, Divorce!!?
just know what he is missing a great women an a great child u r letting him win by beating yourself up show him that he didn't matter my ex did almost the same to me but one day i realize i already have everything i wanted an he was laying in my arms asleep. yea its tough but you have to make a good thing out of a bad thing. life is full of great times an bad you just got to be strong an show the world u r a single mom an u r strong so good luck an i will pray for u an congrad on ur baby
It just happened. Time will heal all, it's not going to get better over night. But think about it, he did you and your son a favor; if he hadn't told you now then you would be with a man that didn't want to be with you and your son would have to live with a father that didn't care about him. Mommy is all your little one needs. Just try to be strong..for him. I know it's easier said than done but he needs to be your one and only priority right now. Not to sound mean or anything but it sounds like your 'husband' just wanted your help getting american citizenship. Do you have any family you can stay with that can help with your baby and your situation until you can get back on your own two feet? You may not want to live with family but it will help make it easier. I'm sorry you have to go through this especially just after having a baby. It's stressful enough to take care of a newborn, I know how it goes!
Pray, pray, pray. I've been through hard times. Trust in the Lord. Go to Him in prayer and lay these issues at His feet and leave it there. He has always come though for me in bigger ways than I could have imagined. I know it is sooo hard. Find a Bible based church in your area and go to a divorce support/ single parenting group. You will appreciate the support from people who are in similar situations. God will provide. Do not worry! He makes all things new and turns what Satan means for bad in your life into good! Sending you hugs, sweetie!
FIRST, go to your ob and get help with anti depressants. This will help you think with a clear mind. It wont take your problems away, but it will help you feel like your going to be able to get through and realize that this isnt the end of life as you know it. Of course your crying all the time but the important thing to remember right now, is that your baby is NOT going to remember a mommy that was depressed and crying and devestated. All he needs right now is food and love. Not that this is going to make anything better, but at least if it was going to happen, it happened now that your baby was just born instead of when he was 5 and would remember all of the heart ache. Its going to be ok even though you feel like its not. The anti depressants are going to help a great deal. Try to have friends or relatives help you as much as possible. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Try to get as organized as possible and get a routine down as far as the baby goes. Im sorry this has happened and youll get through it.
First off I am very sorry to hear all of this. I couldnt imagine going through this with a newborn baby. Keep in mind it is not unusual to experience the baby blues after having a baby which could be contributing to how you are feeling. Do not feel bad for this....it does not make you a bad mom. I cried for 3 weeks straight after having my daughter. Its a big change. As for your husband...I know it hurts but try looking at it this way...you got a beautiful baby boy out of this mess of a situation and you are serisouly better off without him. You dont need to raise your son thinking its ok to cheat and treat women like crap. You can raise him to be 10 times the man his father could ever dream of being. Just do your best to stay strong for your baby boy if nobody else. And dont be afraid to get help if you need it. If you are still feeling very sad and depressed in a few weeks time or it gets bad enough its interfering with your ability to care for your baby then speak to a doctor...they can help you. You may feel your son deserves so much better but what he really deserves is a mom who loves him and cares enough about him to seek help when she needs it and from the sounds of things hes got just that. Best of luck to you hun!
its something that just happened it takes time to get through any break ups even if you dont have any kids give it time let your self get organized focus on your son and your self


it wont be easy but time will make it better