Advice on how to cope with a divorce?

How long does it take before it starts getting better? My wife and I separated and are getting a divorce. We separated 3 months ago and everyday I feel like I want to die. I wake up sick, go to work sick and go to sleep sick. The only thing that keep me kind of going is my little 5 year old daughter. I do not want date anyone not interested in anyone but I think the only way to get over her is meeting someone else. Then again that won't be fair to the other person.Advice on how to cope with a divorce?
Take it from someone whose going through it. Me and my soon to be ex-hubby have been together 7 1/2 years and married 3 1/2 and we also have a 3 year old soon. The first 11/2 was fine and then bam YOUNG girls wanted him and he he wanted them. I filed for a divorce, no one deserves to be put in the much anguish and still be trusted. You will soon get out of your rut. Take time for you and your daughter. The more time you waste thinking about the separation and upcoming divorce the more you are going to hurt. Put all the energy into you little girls, get an Extra hobby, or just plain old find something to do with your time to take you ind off the situation. Don't intentionally make yourself hurt because if your child lives with you she can tell you hurt, don't allow her to see that pain on her daddy's face, she can feel you emotions, especially if she's been with or around you since birth. A child knows their parent, just as a parent knows their child. GOOD LOOK AND I AM PRAYING FO YOU TO GET THROUGH THIS!Advice on how to cope with a divorce?
There is no easy way to deal with divorce. Sometime a divorce is worse than a death. Death is final, but there are always questions about divorce. Take one day at a time and give yourself time to heal. Wait awhile for a serious relationship. Remember until the divorce is final you are still married and commited to her.
it took three months to get out of the fetal position on the floor. i staggered into work everyday and then burst into tears the minute the work day was over. i went to bed at 7 each night. i sobbed every morning while bathing.





divorce is worse than a death because not only are you dealng with a death of a marriage , you are also dealing with a betrayal. you are dealing with a lot of hurt, anger, sadness, and coping with unexplainable and unanswerable questions.





grief hurts.





it will be a year before you feel somewhat normal.





edited to add: oh yeah, divorce care was incredibly helpful.
Its hell. time helps, counseling helps, wellbutrin does WONDERS. You are emotionally wounded, a physical wound of this magnitude takes a great deal of time to heal, so does a psychological one.
hey sorry you need to see a therapist..not an insult but you need to speak to someone professionally to help see you through this. good luck
Wow, do I know how you feel.





First of all, you're right. Dating is the worst idea for you right now. One- you're still married, even if there is no relationship between you and your wife. Two- you're in pain and masking the pain will only sideline it for a short while.





You HAVE to get some help. The pain, the depression, the self-pity (it's inevitable that you're going to feel sorry for yourself, I'm not judging), and the emotional fallout from this shock will eventually fade, but you'll never heal completely if you don't get help.





Look into Divorce Care. It's helped me out tremendously. You know that feeling of standing in a crowded room, but you're still alone? It helps if you meet with a group of people who are all in the same boat as you are. It helps to hear their stories and it helps to see others who are getting better or who have managed to move on with their lives.





Don't let this overwhelm you. You can be miserable or you can do something about it. It's going to be a while before you feel like ';you'; again; it's a long, tough road, but it doesn't have to continue on like this.





They also have Divorce Care For Kids (DC4K) because it's very likely that your daughter is confused and suffering too.





It's $15 for a semester (13 weeks or so?). MUCH cheaper than a counselor, therapist, or lawyer.





They can help and they can refer you to other services should you need them.





Good luck and hang in there... it does get better, I promise.
I was told when I went through a painful patch that it will take 1/2 the time you were together to get over it--so if you were married 4 years it might take 2...but..it won't be this painful the whole time. It does get better---it's just that those first few months it feel like the pain will never go away...while your in it--it's an eternity.


Try dating someone--casually...it does help.
It takes time %26amp; I was in your shoes last year. My now ex-husband and I separated in Aug. 2007, got officially divorced in May of this year. It was hell but it was also a relief. My ex had no problem jumping into dating pretty much from the start of our separation %26amp; got the first rebound pregnant. Sucks to be him!!!





I met a really nice guy three months into my separation %26amp; the day my divorce was finalized, we moved in together. I've never been happier.





I know it hurts now but slowly the pain will ease %26amp; you will be able to move on with your life.





Good Luck!!