How do I help my mother cope with the divorce?

My parents celebrated their 17th anniversary. Then out of the blue my dad disappears. After he came back he told my mom pretty much that he wanted a divorce. She still loves him and wants to fight for their marriage, but he already made up his mind and thinks their is somebody else out there for him. I really want to be there for my mother, but I'm not sure what to say or do. She is independent and does not like to take charity. But I don't think any of her friends know what's going on. Should I tell them? Or ask her if she wants me to invite them over?How do I help my mother cope with the divorce?
I would encourage her to tell her friends. Listen to her and let her know you are there for her. She needs someone to talk too besides you and her friends won't be so close to the situation. I hope your mother has a job and is involved outside of the home because this could be very hard if she isn't. She might want to talk to a therapist during this time, to help with these feelings she is having.How do I help my mother cope with the divorce?
You should not tell her friends what is going on. It is non of their business and is a very private matter. All you can do is be there to support you mom in her time of need. Your dad is losing a good woman and she should be reminded that he is the selfish person and she has done nothing wrong. She is a stong woman. Just be there for her and if she wants her friends to know her business honey she will tell them. I appreciate your concern and love for your mom.
Don't involve the friends. That's her business, and they probably already know anyway.





The best thing you can do is to be there for her. If you're old enough, offer to take her to the grocery, or shopping, or out to lunch. Offer to cook dinner. If you're young, you can still offer to cook dinner, and be a good student and all-round good person. Right now what she needs is a LACK of problems.
god that's rough


i understand your concern


but your mom is a grown woman and will deal with this in her own way


in her own time let her do the talking


and when she is ready


she has had an awful shock


you are already there for your mother and when she is ready to deal with this she will


god bless you both
I think that the best thing you can do for her is just sit down with her and talk. Let her get out all those pent-up feelings that she must have for your father. I'm sure she's hurt and angry and if you can get her to talk about her feelings then that will be a huge step.
Well, I don't know how old you are. If you're an adult, you can say that you can listen when she wants to talk/vent. She needs to talk to someone about this or she'll explode. Give her a shoulder, invite her over, ask what she needs.
Let her tell her friends. Talk to her, get her out and doing things. Be there for her. She needs you, maybe she would not come out and tell you. She needs to let go and in time she will. Watch for signs of depression and such.. just be her rock.
Let her have a good old cry and let her know you will always be there for her and no matter what you'll be by her side. Theres not much you can do but that.


good luck x
Let her tell her friends. What you should do is be ready to help her when she asks for it in her own way.
As much as you want to step in and help , please ask mom first. I admire your compassion for mom but she will handle this in her own way. Ask her if there is anything you can do. It may be an embarrassment for now and in a while she will tell her good friends. Tell her it is not charity but friendship. As far as councilling and attempts to change his mind then save your money and breath...