Im 18, almost 19... how can i cope with a parents divorce?

im a girl. my parents have been toghter for 23 years.





i always wanted them to divorce.... but why ... i mean how can i cope.





for 23 yrs there was plenty of abuse.... physical and mental. my dad had an affair... again ... and eventually got arrested for dui and domestic abuse, ... and we are suppose to go to court for what he did. but i can talk about what happen... i cant. talk








just how may i deal withIm 18, almost 19... how can i cope with a parents divorce?
your parents have there lives good or bad.now you have yours.just learn from there mistakes .talk to people just to let it out .Im 18, almost 19... how can i cope with a parents divorce?
im actually going to go to some counseling. thanks for the advice

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Well first of all I would say try to stay on equal ground. You know what has happened and so do they, there is no need to keep dragging it out unless you are in a therapist's office. Look for the positive in all of it, even though it may be hard. Take this as an example of what you want and don't want your future relationships to be like. I know it is really hard to have to hear them both. If they do talk about each other just simply ask them not too. Everyone makes mistakes, and if you hold onto it for to long it will be yours.
Many children, even adult children, know that divorce for their parents is probably the right thing. Having these thoughts will bring about feelings of guilt and confusion. It's important for you to know that this is normal.





Allow yourself to be supported through this. To be able to share all your thoughts and feelings about the divorce. There will always be a part of you that has mixed feelings. No matter how awful a parent can be, we still love them! And that's okay.





You've taken a good first step in reaching out for help here at Yahoo Answers. Keep up the good work.





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