Anyone in this same situation? How do you cope?
Divorce is not an option.I feel lonely with my hubby. Just no more chemistry.?
I'm in a somewhat similar position, but the only thing is, i wouldn't hold my kids against it, if i am so depress and feel like this is the end of the road for me, then i would go ahead and leave with my kids. But i don't believe in divorce and i just think about the reasons why i used to love him so much and whats different now. It helps to bring back good memories and then when you hold each other at night to sleep, you know that he still loves you and that he's not planning to go anywhere. I think you guys need some alone time to reconnect.I feel lonely with my hubby. Just no more chemistry.?
I was in the same situation only my Husband and I have no kids. We had been having problems for about 2 years and I actually moved out and got my own apartment. We both went to see the movie Fireproof and started reading the book that goes along with the movie called ';The Love Dare.'; I would recommend reading that book. It has really changed my marriage and brought us so much closer. If divorce is not an option to you I would read that book.
having children with someone is not a reason that you can't divorce. i wasn't married, but after i had my son, i left his father. not saying it was easy b/c it was probably one of the hardest things i have ever done in my life, but i wasn't happy and i felt trapped. you can cause more damage to the children by staying in the relationship rather than divorcing. children adapt very well, you will be surprised. and while things may seem ok between you and your husband in front of the children now, they will not be forever. you need to think about what is best, your happiness. (this doesn't make you selfish in any way) Good Luck!
Why is divorce not an option? Do you think that your kids really think that you are both happy? Kids are a lot smarter than you think and very perceptive. You are not really doing them a favor by staying together, but you are teaching them that marriage is a negative thing. Are you both willing to spend the rest of your lives living with someone that you don't love anymore? You have one life and one chance to make it the best it can be. Life is not about settling and being stuck, but about choices and making the most of it. Your kids will grow up one day and leave the house to start their own families. You will then have wasted many years just going through the motions. I'm not sure if you have daughters, but what would you tell them if they were married and came to you with this same problem. I'm sure that your children would want both you and your husband to be happy. Really think about this as an option and really think about what your children are observing in the home. Your feelings have to be spilling out to them in some sort of way, unless you and your husband are both wonderful actors. Your kids desperately need to see love and affection in your marriage, or they are not going to learn it themselves. If you do not believe that divorce is right because of religious issues, I had this same problem when I was married to my first husband. God will forgive you and he does understand your heart. He wants you to be happy and he wants you to be the best mother for your children that you can be. I don't think that he would want you to suffer through this life that he has given to you. Good Luck!
Why isn't there anything for the two of you to talk about? Couldn't the two of you read a book together or find something to do together? Couldn't you have a discussion about current events or volunteer together. There are ways to add the fire back to your marriage but you have to want to.
You have heard that relationships are work right? Try working on your relationship TOGETHER, fight for your relationship instead of being unhappy. You loved each other once and with a little work, you can love each other again! BUT YOU BOTH HAVE TO TRY! TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER. GO NEW PLACES TOGETHER. TRY COUNSELING OR A RETREAT.
Either put the fire back in your marriage (it's takes hard work by both parties) or split the sheets and stop wasting each other's time. You are both adults, aren't you? Marriages do not survive on their own, but if both people aren't committed to it, it's dead. End of story.
I don't understand the '; can't divorce we have kids'; your children know there is something wrong and a damaged marriage and stress in the home can have a worse effect on the kids than a divorce.
Have you tried counseling? Ask yourself what brought you two together in the first place. Then,relive those experiences. Try a weekend getaway for just the two of you. You could also volunteer together.
well its better not to divorce for the sake of your kids.
talk to him!
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