How can one cope with the Divorce Blues?

I hear divorce is painful, whether it has been an abusive or a very good marriage, but failed to stay married. I've been divorced for 7 months.How can one cope with the Divorce Blues?
Hey sweetheart, I have been divorced for over a year now. The first 12 months were HELL. Music, certain smells, different times of the day, the temp out side all did nothing for be but bring me to tears. All I can say is time, how much I don't know. Even to this day I still have moments but its not happening as much any more. Now I see him with the person he left me for and I can tell they are miserable. I think they are both very unhappy but because they both destroyed two families their pride wont let them admit that they wrong and wrong for eadhother. Plus every time I turn around hes screwing up and will have to pay for it in the long wrong. Now that's the only thing that keeps me going. Also the Serenity prayer gets me through everything.How can one cope with the Divorce Blues?
You cope by talking to people and sharing your experience with them. You cope by focusing on making your life now as wonderful as you can. At seven months, you are just getting to the point where I think the majority of people start to come out of their grieving state and start thinking about life and relationships once again. Hang in there, I am living proof there is still life, love, and happiness after divorce.
You fight divorce blues by learning to love yourself. I was married to a man who cheated on me with my best friend. Even though that was a difficult time, I'm glad it happened. It was something I couldn't blame myself for so I knew right then, he's not such a nice guy. I haven't seen either of them for about 10 years now, but I would thank them for helping me out of a bad marriage.





I began figuring out who I was and what I wanted. It wasn't out back then but I liked Dr. Phil's book Self Matters. It talks about resolving past problems and how to be true to yourself. Someone also told me about Barbara Sher's book ';Wishcraft, how to get what you really want.';





I had a divorce party with about 30 of my friends. They bought me a cake and everything. Someone recommended going on a wonderful vacation and sending him postcards saying ';having a wonderful time, glad you're not here.'; It was 4 years after my divorce, but I went traveling in Europe and bought lots of post cards. Every time I looked at them I thought about that and had a little chuckle. Living well and being happy with yourself really is the best ';revenge.';





It's alright to grieve the loss of your marriage. Just don't make it a lifestyle. I hope this helps.
then it's time for you to start dating again, maybe even have an affair. Ever see that movie ';Point Of No Return';? I like how that girl did it.
I was ecstatic to be divorced from my slob of an ex-husband! Guess I was one of the lucky ones. Besides between my job and 2 kids I was too busy to be blue. We were married 13 years and most of them were miserable.
The secret to it, is GET OUT of the house! Don't atay there alone, bored, and thinking nobody cares. Go out with friends, go to the mall, and if you don't have any money, just look. That doesn't cost a thing. Read books, go to the park, and watch the ducks, etc. Just don't try to be tough and stay alone....it hurts too much! Good Luck...7 months is not long enough, but you're getting closer to the pain ceasing somewhat.
What worked for me was to keep busy. Just get involved with the activities that you really enjoy doing and stay active. An active mind has less time to dwell on bad memories. That's when you know you are truly over your divorce...when it just becomes a memory. Best wishes.
Let yourself feel the pain, it always gets better whenever you let yourself cry. It's O.K. to be in pain. Just tell yourself that everytime you feel it coming.