How to cope with a divorce when your not the one getting the divorce.?

So, this is the deal. I have been dating a guy for about 3 months and right off the bat, I knew he was going through a divorce (ugh, I know). Normally~ I wouln't have persued things BUT I truley feel like this is the person I was ment to be with. We get along so well, our conversations are neverending, and we have an amazing connection all the way around. But my issue is that I don't truley understand what he is going through, basically because I have never been in that type of situation (duh!) He means SO much to me and we talked about taking things slow, for the best interest of ';our'; relationship but I am not sure what I can do to help him through all of this. His ex was horrible to him and treated him really bad, so of course he's scared. I want to make this work more than anything, and help him the best way I can. He told me that he wouldn't be going through all of this through his divorce if he didn't want to be with me. It's all very stressful for him, and me.


Any suggestions??How to cope with a divorce when your not the one getting the divorce.?
My parents are going through a pretty ugly divorce right now. My mum was horrible to my dad too. He has a girlfriend now (also called Sara actually!) and she is so nice and supportive. Maybe just try to take things slow but make sure he knows you're not going anywhere. he's going to be pretty stressed out right now so maybe just try to make the rest of his life as relaxing as possible. Try having a little day out together, somewhere really relaxing, like go to an art gallery or a nice long hike or something to get your minds off it for a little while.





hope things work out for you!How to cope with a divorce when your not the one getting the divorce.?
';Ok'; now don't get the wrong idea about my old girl and man they are both rad people an all. Its just both of them have been through divorce twice (ouch!) yep both long marriages too. So any ways I know kind of what things you will see him go through. First there is the question he will ask him self has he made the right or wrong choice, and you have to ensure him that choices that have been made can't be changed (he will get over it in time) then there's the hurt now is show through tears or anger mostly about the soon to be ex-wife. Then there is the ';I need a change part'; this can go for months and he will possibly look for a new nice place to stay or something along the lines..... You need to let him know he has friends and loved ones (e.g. yourself) who are there for him, because this new life or change that he is looking for is just a waist of time all in all he will get over it all because mental scars heal just like physical ones ';with the right care and the right help'; so yep that's about it from me. Ooh and if he has kids it's usually ouch for the two of you mainly you sorry to say.





Good luck!