How do you cope with hurtful gossip after a divorce?

I got divorced recently. While the marriage break-up was painful, what's worse is the gossip from relatives, friends %26amp; colleagues. They tend to say things like ';what's wrong with this woman? why couldn't she make her own marriage work?';





At social functions, I get looks of curiousity %26amp; pity. And guys who were interested in me before marriage now quickly turn the other way when they see me.





I despise going through this as it is unpleasant %26amp; hurtful. Is anyone else facing a similar situation? And how are you coping with something like this??How do you cope with hurtful gossip after a divorce?
I think you're misreading people's reactions. They aren't wondering why you couldn't make your marriage work, they're wondering how they should react. Should they act like they don't know? Should they try to console you? Should they say ';good for you!';?





As far as the guys, that probably has two origins:


1. It's easy to give the impression you're interested when there's no risk you'll be taken up on it. Some of them are wimps.


2. Guys have this ';code,'; and it wouldn't be considered good form to date the ex-wife of someone they know, at least for a while.





You've been through enough without conjuring up a lot of ideas about negative things people are thinking about you. The truth is, nobody spends a great deal of time thinking about you at all, except your family and maybe some close friends.





Relax, hun. It's gonna get better.How do you cope with hurtful gossip after a divorce?
honey hold your head up, flirt, flaunt your freedom, and say to those who gossip, whatever happened between my ex and me is none of your business, and don't be looking at those old dogs for a new relationship, have fun for awhile and let them see hubby was the fool and the one who lost out. keep that smile, hair, nails, feet and wardrobe tight, make them look twice and keep the kids tight and the dog. good luck. you are not the first woman to get a divorce and you won't be the last.
most women would cope by taking the children,filing for child support,alimony,take the house. next move another man in and start over again. and we know women sex,sex and more sex from one relationship to the next. im sure you had a back up plan before you left. and chances are they are gossiping about how and what you have done to your marrage and family.
I think the problem here may be your self esteem - sorry to sound so harsh, but if you really didnt care what other people think then you wouldnt be noticing what you think you are hearing. People get divorced all the time , its nothing new and if they havent got anything better to talk about than someone elses divorce then they arent true friends.
Maybe you are just embarassed of yourself and your situation. You're lacking the confidence and security you once had. Once you deal with it, what other people say will not matter. Seek counselling or guidance on this matter.
why do you care about gossip?


there is absolutely no value in it


so why even take it into consideration


unless of course you are on of those who feed the need


for gossip and thus look for it and partake in it
YOU KNOW WHAT I FACE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH MY MOTHER IN LAW ALWAYS TALKING **** AND TRYING TO OUT SMART ME I JUST KEEP MY HEAD HIGH AND DON'T ALLOW RUMORS OR OTHER THING KEEP ME FROM FEELING DEPRESSED SO ACT LIKE IT'S NOTHIN AND YOU WILL SEE ANOTHER REACTION TOWARD THERE ACTION WITH YOU
you are thinking too much.





forget about gossip.





no cares about you or i.





everyone is just trying to stay afloat.
You have to smile and ignore it.