Best way to cope with parents divorce?

how can i come out of this with the least amount of pain?? all i want to do its stay away and let them get on with it, but in my heart of hearts i know i should be around to pick up the pieces. what i really want to do is throw myself into my studies but due to injury i can't even do that anymore. i really need some good advice. please help me if you think you can





xxBest way to cope with parents divorce?
Every situation is unique and there is no ';proper'; way to cope with divorce. I completely understand your wanting to be there to pick up the pieces but you have ';broken'; nothing, therefore, you need not clean anything up. Anything you can do for your parents that does not hurt you is good but make sure you are not hurting yourself in the process of helping them. You need to focus right now on protecting yourself and your feelings as best you can.





There isn't anything anyone can say that will make you feel better right now but the only thing I can tell you is please, make sure your feelings, wants and needs are heard!!! This is the most important thing. The only other piece of advice I can give you from experience is DO NOT let either of your parents ever make you feel guilty! If they do, speak to them about it in a mature way that let's them know how they are making you feel without sounding like you are accusing them.





I hope I was of some help. Even in the smallest way. Wishing you all the best. Hang in there, I know how hard it is.Best way to cope with parents divorce?
accepting that it is happening is the best way to avoid pain. the smoother the whole thing goes, the better things will be for everyone down the road. if things go smoothly the less pain everyone will have. And, do not let either one of them say negative things about the other around you. tell, them, stop you don't want to hear it. they are divorcing each other, not you.
My parents never married but they split up whenever I was 10. I guess I was kind of too young to really feel affected by it.





My parents remained friends to a descent extent, and I think the best way to cope with it is to keep an equal relationship with each parent if possible, not favoring one, not spending too much extra time with one than the other, and keeping in touch.
I can understand Your Studies are important to You but there is a Filial Debt to both Your Parents


I don't have all the details and am unable to suggest how You should proceed


If You have Family That is respected by BOTH Parents They may be able to offer You more helpfull advice


I'm sorry I can't be more help to You


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Thank You Young Lady for Your Kind Comment


May it work out for everyone involved and Good Luck with Your Studies





Blessings to You
just remember that the devorce IS NOT your fault. it is never your fault. it is only between your parents.


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talk to a best friend, or someone you can trust about the situation. they will make you feel better, and you know that your friends love you till death and even beyond. talk to your best friends parents maybe if you are close to them. they will make you feel more at ease and at home, and they have probably told you before that you can always go over there if you need anything.


another thing, don't do anything stupid, like cutting yourself, you trying to commit suicide. you have a life to fill out and you shouldn't let your parents devorce reck it for you.
my mum and dad got divorced when i was 7 theres no best way to cope with it,,,it all depends on what sort of person you are i just got nasty to both but it didnt help youll just have to go along with it,,its there decision and they must have there reasons,,,the same could happen to you and your children theres nothing you can do sorry but i feel for you and know what your going thru...good luck
well frankly speaking i have sympathy on you... but you need to grow up and face the harsh real world.. if you can't help any thing in this case then don't this create some problem in your life... just move on in your life. . be matured... work hard in your studies and try to be really successful... any be you can push off to some hostel if you feel like too...





all the best ...





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Ok. When my parents were going through their divorce I tried to stay out of it because I didn't want to be in the middle. I think the best thing for you to do is stay out of the detailed stuff, but you have to be there for your parents if they need you.
if you're already out of the situation, then i'd stay out of it. it is their divorce, so let them get on with it %26amp; pick up the pieces themselves. they're both adults, so let them behave as such, while you get on with your own life. good luck, diane.
try not to take sides. tell them you don't want to get involved in their arguments. make sure YOU talk about what YOU'RE feeling either with your parents, a friend or a relative. you're going through a hard time too, not just them.
maybe dont try to run away from the issue. if parent are divorcing its their issue.


you should face them and tell them..it wont fix things but maybe theyll give you suggestion on how they are dealing with the split.
you can't. They screwed you by being selfish.
well if they want a divorce, then let them.


its not yur fault and its not yur choice


just deal with it and things will turn out
Two Christmases!!!!!!!!!!!!
You need to ask each parent to talk with you, separately, and in a private place, about their reason for wanting to end the marriage - do this a day or two apart. I know this will be, very, difficult for you but try to keep the word ';logic'; in mind when talking with your parents. When one, or the other, says ';I feel'; - this isn't good enough ... feelings are not a ';true reason'; as there is a factual reason behind the ';feelings';. Ask each of them if there is ';someone else'; they have met. Be brave and try to not be tearful - remember that your parents owe you a a detailed explanation. Tell them (don't ask) that you want to meet with both of them in a few days - this will give you time to think about the reasons told to you. If there is ';someone else'; for either of your parents, it seems there may be no way to delay the divorce. If this doesn't appear to be the problem, when you meet with both of them, ask them if, for your sake, they could manage to put their differences aside until your graduate from high school in __ years. Tell them the ';divorce situation'; is tearing your life apart and you would like to have a ';stable home life'; for a while longer. Ask them to, please, go to marriage counseling. You do have the right to do this as you are the innocent person whose life will be most affected so, give them a few days to discuss this and ';get back to you';. I hope your parents will realize how selfish they are being by considering divorce and taking away your home-life. Please, be brave, and stand up for your rights. By the way, it isn't your job to pick up the pieces so, should they divorce, look after yourself first and let each parent handle their own issues without adding to your burden. If they're old enough to get married, and have children, they're old enough to handle their own problems.