Suggestions on how to cope with a narcissist? (divorce is not an option at this point)?

Divorce is always an option! Living in hell on earth is not an option.


You do not give enough facts for someone to really help.Suggestions on how to cope with a narcissist? (divorce is not an option at this point)?
1)If you are afraid that it could lead to violence or any type of outbursts, protect yourself. A true narcissictic is just a breath away from a psychopath.


2) If you aren't in danger, my main suggestion is getting yourself a group. Develope outside interests that build your self esteem.


3) Get yourself some good friends. Friends that help to build YOU up and that you can help and be close to also.


4) Try to see through your resentments to be honest. If praise is indicated, through some act of his, give him praise. If not then don't feel forced to praise.


5) Try to remind yourself that he is focused on himself. He has tons of anxiety and wants to tell you all about how wonderful he is and how inept everyone else is. Try not to get sucked in. Your response is really not that important to him. For the most part you can actually tune him out. It sounds cruel but it is real. Most of his big plans to make it big will be over soon. Try not to be the one he blames for blocking those plans. Keep separate money accounts and let him do whatever. Someone WILL be blamed for his failures. It doesn't have to be you.


6) Relationships like yours usually develope into co-dependance. Your role would be that of martyr. You would become much like the wife of an alcoholic. Look into books such as co-dependant no more and perhaps a co-dependant support group.





7) Keep your head up and keep your own interests.Suggestions on how to cope with a narcissist? (divorce is not an option at this point)?
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Tell them that the are not really all of that and that they need to get over themsleves if they want to still be with you.