My best friend husband just asked her for a divorce, how can i help?

They have only been married for a few year and that is the love of her life, but he straight up told her that he is not in love with her anymore. they are both in their late 20's. She's normally such a positive strong person and its killing me seeing her fall apart. I don't want to repeat to her what im sure everyone else is telling her, and besides nothing anyone says will make her pain go away.


I was thinking of getting her a coping with divorce book but i have never read any. suggestions on books and other ideas would be great.


ThanksMy best friend husband just asked her for a divorce, how can i help?
Hello Sasha,





Your a good friend to care for your friend so much. A book would be nice but what is most needed is support from friends and family. Give her a place to stay for a few days so she is not living in ';their home'; and looking at ';their memories';. After that convince her to take on new projects like decorating her home to her own style. Help her do this. Remove all pictures of the two of them together and put them in a box. Anything that makes her think of a story of the two of them put it in the box.





Your friend does need closer though from her soon to be x. To say I am not in love with you anymore is hurtful but there has to be a reason in order to find comfort in herself again.





Best of luck..My best friend husband just asked her for a divorce, how can i help?
just be supportive... and offer her a shoulder to cry on or a couch to sleep on...





she won't be able to read books, if she is in such a state...
Unfortunately, there it not much to say. It is her pain to feel. Support her as best you can, remind her that it is not her fault if he does not love her anymore. He wasn't in it for the long haul. She still has a lot of life and love ahead of her and tho' she feels lost and falling apart right now, she will feel better again. Take her out and about for fun and distractions, help her ';split the sheets'; and maybe even make jokes about ';the husband';. Eventually, she will be on top of her world again and as her friend you will be there with her.
Hate to say it but I think this could get much worse..... sounds like he is in love with someone else. Just be there for her. Try and take her out and about and keep her mind busy. Be prepared to do a lot of listening and encourage her to let out all her emotion and have a good b*tch about the ex. That really helps. Poor thing.
The best thing you can do is to not push her to talk, but be there when she's ready to talk. As a friend, watch for erratic behavior or anything that may be symptomatic of depression. Recommend professional counseling. Recommend divorce support groups. Take her out and spend more time with her, if you can. Be there for her. Let her cry, if she needs to. Encourage her to exercise, as it's a great way to combat stress and depression.





Most of all, make sure she knows that she's a beautiful person who is worthy and capable of loving and being loved.





In other words, be a friend, and realize that her circumstances are changing and her moods may change, but she's still the same person - your friend.
Listen to her. Help her put a plan together. Don't give her a book to read that's the last thing she needs at this time. Why don't you read the book first, it may help you to be prepare for her needs.


You're a good friend. :-)