How to cope with divorce after 22 years?

I have no idea what to expect after living with someone for 22 years and now its over.


Its gonna be rough at first, but how to cope with it is another thing. I feel weird.How to cope with divorce after 22 years?
take things one day at a timeHow to cope with divorce after 22 years?
It is awsome! Free at last, Free at last! You will find yourself doing alot of the things you use to love, but didnt have,or take the time to do b4. All will be well. Peace!
I have walked in your shoes after 23 years of marriage and did not know the marriage died 6 years before.





It has been one year since I seperated and 5 months since the divorce was final and I still feel the loss.





Hopefully you have some really good friends near by who wil lbe there for you. Stay busy do you have a Hobby or an interest something like Photgraphy?





YOu will be going on a ride on the roller coaster of emotions so expect good days and bad days and if possible try to remain calm and friends with your ex.





I would hire a lawyer even though you can file without one in most places at least have them look over the paperwork priro to signing any divorce papers it will be worth it. Ask a friend or relative if they would recommend one.





If you have any thoughts of reconciling then I wish you the best of luck, I tried and failed.





Hope everything works out for you.
Well stop thinking .. go on a long break, make new friends.. and find someone who you can talk to and get this out...





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one second at a time


It will hurt not having that person around just stay prayful


and remember god will never put more on you than you can bear
How you cope with this depends on if you let this get you down and how bad. It matters considerably just how determined you will get to fight the lonliness and sorrow. Of course you feel weird and you will for a very long time. But just how long depends on if you continue to feel sorry for yourself which is normal too, as well as lonely, depressed, anxious, and many other feelings. You will find out just how many different feelings that you actually have and never knew existed. Nothing personal to the other people who answered you and giving you advise. The ';taking it one day at a time'; answers and stuff is good, but its really just an old cliche'. I know all those answers you are getting are from people trying to help you just like I am attempting to do.Those of us who have been in your shoes have had to deal with our problems our own ways and they all differ I am sure. You can make this happy for yourself or miserable for yourself. At first I was miserable, but then I started thinking that this is not a good way to live, nor did I want to live that way. Even for people like myself that wanted the divorce, still had mental problems. But I did not let mine get out of hand. I worked on being happy and refused to live in the pass and I was determined to not feel sorry for myself. I don't thin that there is any one real answer for you to learn how to cope. But I do know that if you let this get the best of you and stay home ';crying in your beer'; will take a toll on you and your health and that is the truth. Family, friends, your job and co-workers can be a major roll in helping you deal with this situation. And it is a ';situation'; that will not just go away on it's own. It will get easier day by day if you try to remain happy and keep a clear head. That is the biggest point I am trying to get across to you is to not let this get you down and keep you down. Fight this misery every step of the way. Let yourself cry and grieve but not too long. And this other old cliche' about staying single for 18 months? Rubbish I say. Get back out there and go on dates and have fun. Don't become idle and don't remain depressed. You know what makes you happy and what stuff you find is fun for you. Live life to its fullest. I do hope that I got across to you what I am trying to. (smile) God can definately help you too.....
I made it to 20 years. Stay busy, Join a gym, Shave,cut your hair, buy new clothing,Car. Go places, get noticed, Change your life, and flirt when ever you can. You will start dating again. That is what it is all about, Sharing your life with someone you love. Any Kids?
22 years is a long time to be with someone. It will be hard. For 22 years you have lived with this other person ate meals and lived your life. You are going to be finding yourself being lonely and, unsure of yourself.


Take one day at a time. Start a new hobby maybe, do the things that maybe you couldn't do before. Make some new friends. Make more time to visit family, friends.....
I've been there and it is awful! The good news is it gets better. The trick is not to look too far ahead. Living a day at a time may be a cliche but it's what you need to do. Even that may be too much so live half a day at time or an hour or a minute.


Sort your material circumstances out and make sure you have a corner you feel safe in. Be nice to yourself even a little self indulgent. You will be going through a grieving process and you have allow yourself time and space for this. Try not to feel bitter towards your ex...easier said than done I know. Keep in touch with friends and family and any other support net work you have.


Goddess Bless you.
im married for 27 years know how u feel wat do u do?get a bedsit etc.feel alone i dont know
If this was for a Right Thing , we have the Reasoning . Else , WE create Our Own Meaning with a Purpose to be Achieved .





We are the Creator of Our Own Destiny .


Even every person of Family has left the link which they had in Childhood . While comparing others , this may be Different . Still , is available with Every Person .
u will be fine in time- honest. Its real strange at first, just take it slowly, and dont expect too much from yourself, get used to living alone, and finding things that you like doing. Dont be desparate and rush into the first relationship you can, cos youre gonna be vulnerable, build up a network of support/friends or family and just take it easy, try not to panic about finances, just take each day as it comes
so sorry to hear that.i still hurt years later and still have odd days when i think what might have been but the thing is the world wont stop to allow you to grieve and come to terms with the situation! that's really a good thing tho because that means you have to go on and time really does heal...you will go through many different phrases of feelings and that's all part of the healing and will eventually be the beginning of a new you.my nan always said ';there is a lid for every saucepan!'; good luck xx
Pray about it, realize the nobodies perfect.
Well it cannot be a surprise. After 22 years there had to be some clues, so i'm guessing that you already began to deal with it emotionally in some way, now what you absolutely have to do is get up, get out, get busy, get involved in things that will fill your time. Think of things that you always wanted to do but didn't do because of family ties, Learn a language, get a degree, Travel to foreign countries. there are so many things to do out there to better yourself and there are plenty of people that would be more than happy to hang out together to share common interests. Just don't sit around and dwell on ';why'; ';how'; . My parents split after twenty years and it's amazing that they had nothing in common, I helped them both to start on their new lives and now they can actually sit down together during family events and they are both enjoying their new full lives. Remember to HAVE FUN.
look at the positive side and to anothe new day and life.





problem with the human mind we adapt too fast and get used to it. and the emotions that came with it.





work out a new routine and outlook for yourself and start anew....and NO! You're never too old for anything especially starting anew. it all depends on your own thinking and aspiration!





forget the old and unhappy past...learn from them and never live with them!





there is always a new tmorrow, even by yourself! for the mind works wonders and wanders and depends on how each take and see it.





good luck.
buy u a nice hooker.////
Did that been there . You can get all the advice in the world but the only thing that's going to relieve the pain is get a woman and do the hell out of her . After that its a breeze .
Go to the bookstore and buy a book on it. Seriously. You don't want to fall apart at the seams. I imagine I would. You should try to get out of the house and go somewhere public, a park , a library, a concert, a movie. You won't feel as isolated and like you're the only person on the planet. Try to find a book or magazine to read. Go hunting, fishing, bowling. Invite your brother, sister, dad, uncle, or friend. Go to the state fair or pumpkin festival or car show, or gun show, etc. I wouldn't start dating again for a year or more. That's a lot of ground you just covered and your mind and body need a vacation. Do your heart a favor and take it. Also if you try to develop friendships that may be additional stress. you get in arguments, miscontrued statements, expectations aren't met, or you feel hasseled by them when you want to be alone. I would try to start with family members you can count on and who will be generous with their time. Maybe invite your brother and his wife and kids, if you can stomach it, and make them your specialty dish. Get started fast before winter sets in or you are just going to get lockjaw and stagnate through the winter and possibly out of habit into next summer.
I was with my ex for 20 years. So, I do understand how you are feeling. Try not to focus on whats behind you, rather focus on whats a head of you. Make small changes that are things that you've always wanted or put off because of your ex. We alway compromise to please the other...this is no longer necessary...so enjoy. You will become more comfortable in your new life as time goes on.......