How to cope after divorce?

Hi there, I divorced my hubby after he had an affair with a close friend of mine. I have a new partner now but find it difficult to move on as I'm still hurting so much about everything.I love my new boyfriend but will it ever be the same.we also have three kids together. We were together for 13 years, my family say I havnt let go of my past,but I just dont know how to?How to cope after divorce?
You move on after a divorce by moving forward, letting the past go. Sounds like an easy fix doesn't it? If only it was.One thing you should try to understand is that a large part of your misery is plain old rejection, not necessarily missing your husband.You know you don't want to be married to someone you can't trust or wore has stopped loving you. I think it is too soon to begin a new relationship when you heart is still with the old relationship. It is not fair to the new guy and as you've found it has not alleviated your pain. See a therapist, an objective person will see things with much more insight than you can. Time really helps and once you accept the divorce in your head your heart will follow.How to cope after divorce?
I believe that you can not let of the past specially if you have kids. It is just a matter of ';accepting'; what had happened. It is hard i know but that is the very first step you have to do in order to move on with your life. Forgive and forget and live a new life...easier said than done huh? ueah i know but that's the way it is. do not hold bitterness and grudges into your heart...let it go, focus your attention now to your boyfriend who is giving new love, open your heart to him and ymost importantly think more often about your childrens happiness and you will be happy. goodluck.
You divorced your hubby because you both never got along. The affair was just an excuse. When you love somebody you work it out.





My wife went out on me 10 years ago and I never got angry, I just raised my son until he was grown and now my wife and I look at each other with a mission accomplished. Our marriage is over.





Hopefully this time you used good judgement in picking out whom to be with.





I am divorcing right now and getting ready to be single again and I am not ready to go out and date. I will need time, but I am looking for a friend to share time with. There's a big difference. I'm acutally looking on line and have a few intentions already.


So as for your case after 13 yrs, it's not going away, never, ever go away. It will be with you for life even if you get married again.





Do you know the number one problem for me is?





Having sex with another woman other than the only woman I've known for 24 years. I never went out on her. I am divorcing her because I am not in love. That's it.! We will remain friends and besides she getting a whopping $50,000 anyway...what does she really have to complain about eh!





Screw it...that's what I say!
I am currently getting divorced. While I thought it would be hard for me to move on, she clearly has had no trouble. Just knowing that makes it easier for me to ';get under someone new.';





If you have a new man in your life, enjoy your time with him. Try not to dwell on the past.
THe best things I did was get into therapy to talk through the issues so I could address them head on and take it from there. I also surrounded myself with friends so I could have support. Those things allowed me to move on and have a successful relationship and marry again when the time felt right. I was married 17 years and had 3 kids.
It's not easy. My wife and i both got out of twenty year marriages. We both were the bad guys though. And with that said there are times i feel remorse or guilt. No it will never be the same but you can't dwell on the past. Focus on your children and be happy with the fact you have the opportunity of building a new life. Not only for you but for your children.