How can I help my preschooler (age 3) to cope with my recent divorce & the abandoment of her father?

I got divorced less than a month ago. I have 2 precious little girls. The baby is 9 months %26amp; my oldest is 3. I need help explaining to her about the divorce, especially since ';Daddy'; moved to another state the very next day %26amp; does not have a phone.





Now when she asks for ';Daddy'; I don't know what to say %26amp; it is breaking my heart! This is the 2nd father who has abandoned this precious girl, but fortunately, she doesn't know about her biological father walking out on us 4 days after she was born.





I'm open to suggestions. Please be gentle. This is a very delicate subject for me.How can I help my preschooler (age 3) to cope with my recent divorce %26amp; the abandoment of her father?
I went through the exact same thing just sit at her level and say that mommy and daddy are going to live apart for a while . Let her process that and answer any questions she might have . Usually kids even toddlers just want a straight simple answer . As for the phone thing I would say that Daddy hasn't got his phone hooked up yet and that sometimes it takes time. Reassure her that none of that is her fault and DON'T blame her dad just say that it just happens sometimes. Get your family to help and take your daughter out on special trips to the store especially your dad,your brother,a male cousin,your nephew etc . That way she still has a positive male figure in her life it does get easier as she gets older hang in there!How can I help my preschooler (age 3) to cope with my recent divorce %26amp; the abandoment of her father?
The most loving thing you can do for your daughter is pray with her. Prayer is very powerful.





Only the Lord can help dear friend. Open your heart to Him and ask Him to come into your heart %26amp; to help you with this difficult situation. Noone else can fill that empty spot you feel within except our Lord Jesus. Only He can give you the undescribable peace, love, and joy that your soul is seeking right now.





A book that helped me open my heart more to the Lord was ';Power of a Praying Woman'; by Stormie Omartian. She also has one ';Power of a Praying Parent'; I refer to them many times.





Here is a Love letter from Almighty God to you which is from scripture from His Holy Word/Bible. Very encouraging.


http://www.fathersloveletter.com/flltext鈥?/a>





Salvation %26amp; Peace message


http://www.doersoftheword.org/salvation.鈥?/a>


The pastor on this site can give you free couselling %26amp; guidance. He has a toll free # you can call.





Jeremiah 29:11-13


11 For I know the plans I have for you,'; declares the LORD, ';plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.





Matthew 19:26


Jesus looked at them and said, ';With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.';





Matthew 7:7


7';Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.





May the Lord bless you %26amp; your children.
You MUST try all you can to make up for the loss of her Daddy. Answer her questions by telling her Daddy had to go away, but he will see her whenever he can. Don't bring up the subject of Daddy......only answer her questions when SHE brings up the subject. Give her extra love and attention, and do all you can to make up for the loss of him. By all means, don't say anything bad about him that she can hear. Children are much smarter than adults think they are, and they are listening when you don't think they are. Give her all the love and attention you can.....children this age forget easily and won't remember a lot when they grow up. She needs a father figure in her life.....maybe an uncle or grandpa could help fill that void for her. May God bless you and your children!!
wow this must be horrific for you, just remember you have pulled yourself through once, you can certainly do it again, be extra strong for your kids, i know it may be hard but try not to look upset when your around them, try to look like happy and strong, as for what to tell your daughter i really can't say. if it was me (i know this is going to sound bad) but I'd just try to avoid anything to do with their missing daddy all-together, hoping that they will eventually just forget about him as he appears to have done with them, i mean telling them the truth is not going to be good for kids that young and i don't think telling them ';daddy's gone on a holiday or to work for Santa for a while'; will do them much good as it will be giving false hope that he is coming back and things will be back to normal, my heart goes out to you, i hope someone who has been through this will be able to give you better advise!!
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I would just explain to her in a way that she can grasp that Daddy went away. Try to spend some special time with her, doing what Daddy did. I think she is probably too young to really understand the whole situation. If he comes back into the picture I would be very careful not to jump in. Good luck.
Well Just try to talk to her and tell her that her daddy had to move but that doesn't mean he doesn't love her, if you tell your kid that her Father hates her she's just going to grow up with anger, just tell her that even if he's not around he still loves her and thinks of her.


Good luck
Umm... this is pretty tuff... my step-son is going through the same thing and he is also 3, except it was his mother that left, we just recently recieved custody so he was with her his whole life. We just give him extra love and attention and when he ask's about her we tell him that she has to work alot, probably not the best answer but it seems to satisfy his curiosity. At first he was angry alot, but we just kept him occupied, we put him t-ball and always played outside. Try not to put down her father, she will make her own decision about him when she gets a bit older. Just tell her he had to go away for awhile and explain that he still loves her with all his heart. The main thing is to just keep her occupied, let her talk about him all she wants. You might spend ';alone'; time with both of them, oh and lots of reassurance that you are not going to leave her also. Try to bring the rest of your family into your life more than they are now, go to your parents house for dinner, visit aunts, uncles, brothers, make her feel EXTRA loved.





Good luck